Affair with supermarket hunk makes me feel like a woman again and I won't stop

I feel more alive than I have done in years but have a five-year-old daughter at home and don’t want to ruin her life.

My husband and I have been together for six years. He’s 31 and I’m 28.

I was thrilled when I had my baby. I had a difficult childhood — and difficult teens with a mum who just couldn’t say no to a man, and a dad who had long ago left the whole scene.

With a husband and child, I felt life was finally settling down.

Since my daughter went full-time at school, I’ve been working part-time in a supermarket.

It felt great to be working again and to get out of the house. Then this guy joined the staff and we got to be mates.

He’s 32 and great-looking. One night after work, when the weather was bad, he gave me a lift to the end of my road. I turned to thank him but then, on an impulse, gave him a kiss.

That turned into an out-and-out snog.

He drove to the park and we had fabulous sex in the back of his car. It was bliss.

We then carried on seeing each other on a casual, no-strings basis, but it’s now been two years and has got so much deeper.

Having sex with this man makes me feel like I’ve not felt at home for a very long time.

He’s married too, though, and he’s been with his wife for ten years. He says sex with her isn’t half what it should be these days.

I do love my husband a lot but my lover and I can’t bear to stop seeing each other for sex.

I don’t want to walk out on my husband and child and my comfortable home, but I feel so confused I don’t know what to do for the best.


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DEIDRE SAYS: It seems a no-brainer to me. You have a child and a home and a husband you love.

Why risk all of that for the sake of a man who may one day end up cheating on you, just like he currently cheats on his wife?

Maybe the answer will lie in your past. Your dad left your mum and, somewhere inside, you may fear this will happen to you. You don’t want to be left on your own so you’ve got someone else, just in case.

Of course, it’s exciting to have an affair, but it’s likely to end up in tears – for your daughter and husband as well as you.

For all of your sakes, it’s really best if you end this affair and instead work on making your love life at home all you want it to be. My e-leaflet 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex could help.

This is your life, not your mum’s, so make sure you live it your way.

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Supermarket shoppers targeted by spam emails in run up to Christmas

Morrisons, Tesco and Aldi customers have all reported receiving suspicious messages claiming to be from the supermarkets.

With Brits expected to spend £166 per person on food and booze Christmas Day, according to Give as You Live, fraudsters are seizing the opportunity to prey on naive shoppers who are hoping to save some cash.

Often the dodgy messages say that you can claim a voucher to spend at the supermarket and ask you to follow a link to fill in your details.

Really, the link will take you to a website run by the fraudsters who are likely to use your personal information to hack your bank accounts.

Morrisons has issued a warning on Facebook about a number of spam e-mails, text messages and social media posts that claim to be from the supermarket.

How to protect yourself from scams

  • Firstly, remember that if something seems too good to be true, it normally is.
  • Check brands are verified" on Facebook and Twitter pages – this means the company will have a blue tick on their profile.
  • Look for grammatical and spelling errors; fraudsters are notoriously bad at writing proper English. If you receive a message from a “friend” informing you of a freebie, consider whether it’s written in your friend’s normal style.
  • If you’re invited to click on an URL, hover over the link to see the address it will take you to – does it look genuine?
  • To be on the really safe side, don’t click on unsolicited links in messages, even if they appear to come from a trusted contact.
  • Be careful when opening email attachments too. Fraudsters are increasingly attaching files, usually PDFs or spreadsheets, which contain dangerous malware.
  • If you receive a suspicious message then report it to the company, block the sender and delete it.

In the post, it said: "If you receive one of these suspicious messages, please do no click any links, open attachments to enter personal information.

"We would never ask for your bank details in order to redeem a voucher."

Tesco shoppers have also tweeted about receiving a suspicious looking text message claiming to be from Tesco.

The text claims that the customer has come second place in postcode drawer run by the retailer. It also directs you to follow a link to collect the prize.

The message doesn't feature any of the supermarket's branding and is also riddled with spelling mistakes, like "secure" instead of "secured" and "well-done" instead of "well done".

This is usually a sign that the text isn't genuine and that it isn't to be trusted.

Tesco has been replying to customers' concerns via their social media team, confirming that it is indeed a fake.

"This is a scam," the Tesco team said, "I'd advise deleting this text without accessing any links."

Earlier this week, Aldi also warned customers to be wary of a fake £85 voucher doing the rounds on Facebook.

The voucher first cropped up on social media two years ago but it has resurfaced again ahead of Christmas.

If you receive a message on social media or via Whatsapp or email that claims to be from a supermarket but looks suspicious, you should report it to their customer services team before following any links.

One dad from Scotland now can't afford to buy Christmas presents for his two kids after he lost £3,000 of his life savings to scammers.

Scammers are using fake websites to lure in Christmas shoppers and take their money. These are the ones you need to watch out for.

Ever wondered what really happens when you report fraud? The Sun spent a day working at Lloyds to see how easy it is for scammers to steal your cash.

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