This New ‘OA’ Character Is The Perfect Sidekick For Prairie

There’s a new character in The OA Season 2 and there are plenty of reasons to be excited about him. According to Vulture, Karim is a San Francisco detective on the hunt for a woman’s missing granddaughter, and he eventually teams up with OA to find her. So let’s investigate this newcomer — who plays Karim on The OA?

His name is Kingsley Ben-Adir, and there are a few places you might recognize him from. He’s appeared in King Arthur: Legend of the Sword, World War Z, Trespass Against Us, Deep State, and several other projects. He’s also already spoken about his role in The OA, which debuted in 2016 and has been MIA since, and why he was drawn to the series in the first place.

"You could deconstruct [why people like the show] and say that it’s maybe the fact that all the kids are misfits and different, and there’s some characters that we don’t normally see represented who are represented. The way that they come together is unusual," he told DigitalSpy. "There’s so much individuality in it. I haven’t seen everything, but I can say, in my reference or my experience, I’ve never seen anything that’s even a tiny bit similar to The OA."

He also said he thinks The OA is a breath of fresh air in a TV landscape that’s often saturated with violence. "Violence is so overly represented onscreen, and we see violence so much, and we believe it," he continued. "And The Movements were kind of a way of being the opposite of that – to have a different effect to violence, which was really interesting."

The OA‘s fanbase is famously passionate and ready to dissect basically every single detail presented to them, especially after they’ve waited so long for a second season. Theories about Ben-Adir’s character are already gaining traction on Reddit, and fans are excited for his arrival on the show. "Kingsley is so likable, can’t wait for his new character!" wrote Reddit user doots.

Reviews of his performance in Season 2 have also been good thus far. Sophie Gilbert wrote for The Atlantic that his character "often functions as an avatar for more skeptical viewers, responding to the events unfolding around him with the arched eyebrow of the hard-boiled detective." That certainly seems like a helpful person to have around on a show filled with so many twists and turns — both for the characters and for viewers.

Season 2 in general seems to have at least kept critics interested, despite a few minor missteps. Vulture’s Jen Chaney wrote that some moments in The OA‘s second season "are so visually and conceptually bold, including imagery reminiscent of the works of Steven Spielberg and David Lynch and shots of everyday sights rendered to look iconographic, that you have to admire [creators Zal] Batmanglij’s and [Brit] Marling’s vision." That’s pretty high praise, but it was followed by the caveat that "there are other moments that skirt so close to the pretentious and ridiculous that they made me think I might actually transform into the eye-roll emoji."

But hey, with a show as wild and unpredictable as The OA, that might just be part of the deal. Ben-Adir is fully on board with all of the show’s weird mysticism, and could have a long future with it if the series can keep up its success.

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This ‘You’re The Worst’ Moment Nails One Of The Biggest Misconceptions About Depression

You’re The Worst has always been adept at depicting mental health, and as it nears its series finale, it’s closing out strong. Though Jimmy has been aware of Gretchen’s depression on You’re The Worst for several seasons now, he hasn’t been the most supportive partner. The March 20 episode shows that this is, at least in part, because he straight-up doesn’t get it — but it also highlights one of the most frustrating misconceptions about depression.

In the episode, we learn that Gretchen, after losing her job, has formed a makeshift "office" at a riverbank, where she’s been spending the day so that Jimmy still thinks she’s gainfully employed. After Edgar catches on to her ruse — and the fact that she’s been stealing his medication — Gretchen cries that she’s afraid to tell Jimmy because she’s afraid he’ll abandon her again. "He will leave me again, and this time he won’t be wrong to do it," she sobs. "I was really trying at work, and I still blew it. Even when I try, I fail. I always fail. And I can’t fail with Jimmy. I just can’t."

It’s a rare moment of emotional honesty, and heartbreaking as it is, one Gretchen is right to have. Edgar points out that, at this point, she should feel comfortable talking to Jimmy about her problems, but as it was made clear earlier, Jimmy really doesn’t understand Gretchen or her depression. In a previous scene, she arrived home to find Jimmy curled up in the fetal position on the couch, sad that his screenplay was tossed out so that Diablo Cody could rewrite it. He claimed that this experience gave him newfound insight about the "psychic pain depression can inflict" and that it really "put [her] past flare-ups into context," only to wake up the next morning with a pep in his step because he decided to gaze into the "great void" of his sadness and say "no more!"

This idea — that someone can simply choose to not be depressed — is one of the most prominent misconceptions about depression, as well as one of the most harmful. Jimmy was certainly entitled to feel sad, but his and Gretchen’s experiences aren’t comparable by any stretch of the imagination, and him misunderstanding that is exactly what pushes Gretchen to hide what she’s been going through in the first place. After her heart-to-heart with Edgar, Gretchen does tell Jimmy what’s been going on, and while he assures her it will all be fine, the pained look on his face suggests otherwise.

The closer You’re The Worst draws to Jimmy and Gretchen’s wedding, the more apparent it’s become that they shouldn’t get married — not because they don’t love each other, but because Jimmy can’t give Gretchen the kind of support she needs. She feels like she has to pretend everything’s fine and perfect or he’ll leave her just like he did at the end of Season 3. Gretchen may have forgiven Jimmy for doing so, but as this episode shows, the fear and pain his abandonment caused may be too deep-seated to repair.

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Growing up, pictures like this didn’t exist. I’m so glad they now do

Emily Brooks.

Kicking a footy with the boys has always been fun but a little intimidating for me. Firstly, because I identify as extremely uncoordinated. But also because I identify as a woman, and the guys I watched on the field and my television were always, well, guys.

Most Saturday nights in winter I would be seated in front of the television with my dad and his friends and their boys and my mum, because she is the biggest footy fan of us all, and we’d watch the Adelaide Crows win (if it was the late ‘90s) and lose (if it was any other year).

It was my childhood but never my future. Because I could never see myself in the game. But now there is finally a photo changing all that. The photo is the one of Carlton’s AFLW star Tayla Harris kicking for a goal in last weekend’s game. It’s some sort of angular perfection but it’s brilliant because her right leg is so high. Higher than you see in the men’s game because Tayla Harris is flexible and plays to her strengths. I once did a lot of ballet, so it made me smile. I could do what she just did, very, very poorly.

We all know the old trope ‘you can’t be it, if you can’t see it’ is an old trope because it’s true. That’s why this photo is so important. But on Tuesday, young girls around the country were denied the opportunity to see Tayla Harris’ epic kick, to believe they could do it one day because it was taken down by the Seven Network.

The Seven Network removed the photo from its social media feeds because it had been bombarded with vile and misogynistic comments, some inciting sexual violence. However, the decision to delete the image was criticised by sports stars across the country, from AFLW player Darcy Vescio to Olympic cyclist Anna Meares.

The resounding reaction was they were bowing down to trolls. So much so, Seven put the photo back up and apologised.

As she sat in the media storm this morning, Tayla Harris felt “empowered” and a little “warm inside”, after the AFL community backed her following the backlash. She also posted the photo again with the caption: “Here’s a pic of me at work…. Think about this before your derogatory comments, animals.” Boom.

“A lot of people [have] got on board including Patrick Dangerfield and other high-profile people [who] posted the photo and said ‘let’s share this rather than deleting it and letting them win essentially’,” she told RSN Radio.

“I kind of saw that and felt a bit warm inside, it felt great. Obviously the AFL community got around me and that was awesome, but it isn’t about me now, it’s about a way bigger picture.”

And she’s right. This picture is not just important in inspiring and encouraging young girls into the game. This picture is important because it’s finally made the nation and the game itself realise the attacks women face are real, and gendered, and far harsher than attacks against men.

Trolling is, on the whole, gendered.Women do face more vile, derogatory comments which often incite sexual violence. This isn’t usually the case for men.

This picture has made the country wake up because women don’t just play the game differently, they have to deal with fame and recognition differently.

Good men and women are speaking up to protect female athletes who should be celebrated instead of vilified when they kick a goal. The ball is now in the court of the powers that be – from the media to the game itself – to do their part.

Because these female athletes, who are finding their feet on the public stage as well as the field, sadly require extra levels of protection to go to work. And the answer isn’t in pressing delete.

This article first appeared on Future Women, a club connecting women through community, events and journalism. You can join here. Emily Brooks is the editor of Future Women.

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Is LVP Behind All This Dog Drama On ‘RHOBH’? Join Me For A Deep Dive Into These Texts

This dog adoption drama is the storyline that feels like it will never end on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. While the March 12 episode ended with a conversation about the texts between Teddi and John Blizzard that Ken had printed out for Lisa, the most recent episode concludes with Teddi coming through with some receipts of her own. And she insists that those texts prove Lisa orchestrated the dog drama. But do they? This complicated plot just keeps thickening.

As soon as it seems like the story is figured out, a whole new piece of the puzzle gets thrown in. How does anyone know who to believe at this point? One week, Teddi looks look she orchestrated this mess. The next week, Lisa seems like the ultimate mastermind, especially since the latest text messages aren’t even from conversations with Lisa — they are just conveying things that she and husband Ken Todd allegedly said to Blizzard. Even the most objective viewer might be confused.

This week, the texts were finally just put onscreen, like Ken’s should have just been in the first place. Teddi read them out loud. In one message, John claimed that "Ken is calling me now about it." He even claimed that Ken is "figuring out the best way to do this because of like filming and relationships."

In another screenshot, Teddi seemingly implicated herself when she admitted, "I am tired after this morning" with a laughing crying face after she and Kyle left Vanderpump Dogs. In response, John mentioned that he was with Lisa and her daughter Pandora Vanderpump discussing what just went down.

This whole thing just keeps getting messier episode by episode. Teddi appeared to own her role in the scheme during a conversation with Dorit Kemsley at Camille Grammer’s birthday party during the March 19 episode and she seemed genuinely upset that she resorted to these antics. Still, Teddi claimed that "none of it wouldn’t have happened if it wasn’t for her orders," and by "her," she means LVP.

Teddi even told Lisa, "I was on the phone with John Blizzard while you were on the other line with John Sessa."

On the other hand, Lisa adamantly denied having any involvement in this mess. The only thing that Teddi and Lisa have agreed on was that they both "felt betrayed" by each other.

Right now there are more questions than answers. The biggest question is about why Lisa would even want to orchestrate this kind of drama in the first place. Answers to that question get even stranger than Dorit naming a dog Lucy Lucy Apple Juicey.

Earlier this month, Lisa Rinna theorized that LVP was hoping for a spin-off show in an Instagram Story that she posted and then was reposted by the Instagram account iRealHousewives on March 8. In it, Rinna declared, "I think you get paid for what you do. So my feeling is if we are servicing a spin off we should be paid for it." Later in the post, Rinna said, "if you are going to use our services without telling us, that we are playing out a storyline to launch a pilot for a new show and you don’t compensate us extra for that." That is some seriously hot tea.

Vanderpump fueled the spin-off show rumors herself in a March 18 interview with Daily Mail. She said, "We might have filmed quite a lot of stuff to maybe produce a pilot."

She explained why she would want to do a Vanderpump Dogs spin-off show. Lisa said, "I think everybody that’s in the public eye has a kind of moral responsibility to really put yourself out there and stand up for what’s right. She even said, "I think we need that now more than ever." Just don’t say that to Lisa Rinna. Or Teddi. Or most of the other cast members who feel used and abused by their friend.

It seems like there’s a new piece of evidence in this dog drama when every new episode airs. And judging by the promo for next week, it’s not anywhere near over yet.

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Could this scheme be a game-changing direction in sustainable fashion?

As Australians become more aware of and vocal about the impact of discarded textiles on the environment, it is hoped a new scheme will "disrupt" the cycle of clothing waste.

The recently-created Australian Circular Textile Association will launch a national "clothing take-back scheme" to try to boost the sustainability of fashion.

Australian Circular Textile Association, founder, Camille Reed.

The association's founder, Camille Reed, a textile fashion designer-turned entrepreneur, says Australians are the second largest consumer of textiles, per capita, in the world.

We buy approximately 27 kilograms of new clothing and textiles a year each, generating an "unmanageable" excess of waste product.

Under the take-back scheme, consumers will be able to drop off old garments at participating stores or charity collection points; the clothing will be dispatched to a "recycle, reprocess and redistribution" process, in which recyclable materials will be extracted.

The scheme which will commence in September with a pilot program is one of the first of its kind in the world to be implemented nationally. Conversations around its logistics will take place in this week in Melbourne, at the second Australian Circular Fashion Conference.

Charities spend around $13 million a year disposing of 60,000 tonnes of unusable donations, much of it going to waste.

Reed's "take back" program has been welcomed by sustainability groups such as the National Association of Charitable Recycling Organisations (NACRO), whose CEO, Omer Soker, says we are at a "tipping point" in terms of managing textile waste.

“Charities are very appreciative of all donations that are coming and they still want them for the money to go back into social welfare programs and the environment. But the amount of the clothing that goes to textile waste that is going into landfill is just unmanageable. It is really a shame,” he said.

According to Soker, charities alone spend around $13 million a year disposing of 60,000 tonnes of unusable donations, much of it going to waste.

Camille Reed said working with a sustainability team at her previous workplace, Forever New, helped her to understand the "grand scale" of textile waste in Australia.

She describes the Australian fashion industry as being at a pivotal “adapt or die” moment in terms of sustainability and says it needs to change its attitude to waste as it did to its attitude to exploited human labor.

“Both are part of a holistic cycle, those two issues have to marry up. The way ethics made a disruption to fashion and the industry had to step up to the mark, the environment is now that catalyst for disruption. We are at a point of inquisition, inquiry and transparency [for sustainability]."

Reed stresses that for initiatives such as the take-back scheme to be successful, consumers and brands will need to take responsibility for their habitual practices.

“It's a two sided game, no one side has more responsbility than the other. The customer has to be a little more aware and asking better questions of themselves as well as the industry … We should be past the blame and shame game," she said, and it was time producers and buyers examined their behaviour.

Omer Soker said he hoped both suppliers and buyers would opt for higher quality products that lasted longer, rather than continuing to consumed "faster landfill fashion".

“These products are built to obsolescence. So I would always advocate for quality garments even if it means that are somewhat more expensive because the value remains in the garment by giving it a second life or to the proposed take-back scheme,” Soker said.

Reed hopes increased focus on the toll of waste fashion on the environment will prompt consumers to turn more towards more durable items. Her advice to environmentally conscious followers of fashion is: “Buy something high quality and favour that piece.”

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‘Let’s get this party started’: Warning over mosque gunman’s video

Social media users have been urged not to share a video taken by a gunman involved in attacks on two mosques in New Zealand that left 49 people dead.

The country’s national police force called on people not to spread the “extremely distressing footage” after worshippers were killed during Friday prayers.

The message has been echoed by New Zealand’s Prime Minister Jacinda Ahern.

Sky News has decided not to show the video. Instead, we are showing six stills from the footage, where the gunman identifies himself.

In his social media posts he calls himself Brenton Tarrant.

As he starts his car, he mutters to himself: “Let’s get this party started.”

Three shotguns can be seen on the front passenger seat.

Tarrant’s legs are visible underneath the steering wheel, his trousers with padded knees – the kind worn by police or military assault teams.

He is also wearing ammunition magazines around his waist.

The gunman turns the camera on himself – a young white man. Closely cropped hair. Reportedly in his late 20s.

“Hello lads,” he begins, calmly.

Aware he is probably being watched, by followers around the world on his live-stream.

He parks his car on a side road next to the mosque, off the main street and gets out, wearing camouflage gloves on his hands and holding a gun.

A military marching song is playing in the background of the video – identified it as The British Grenadiers March.

In the car boot, next to some plastic shopping bags, are some red fuel cans and at least two more guns.

They are graffitied with writing in white ink, showing dates of historic Christian battles and names of well-known far-right extremists.

As he walks from the car, around the corner, fully armed, he ignores three people on the street.

He is focused on his objective: the mosque and the Muslims worshipping inside.

As the first victim walks out of the mosque, Brenton Tarrant raises his rifle.

Speaking about the footage, New Zealand police said they were “aware there is extremely distressing footage relating to the incident in Christchurch circulating online”.

“We would strongly urge that the link not be shared,” the force said in a statement.

“We are working to have any footage removed.”

A man aged in his 20s has been charged with murder following the shootings at the al Noor mosque in the city of Christchurch and then the nearby Linwood mosque.

Three other people – two men and a woman – were also arrested after the attacks.

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This Is Why We Probably Won't See Any More Pictures Of A Pregnant Meghan Markle

Being heavily pregnant has not slowed Meghan Markle down one bit. Since the duchess and Prince Harry first announced they were expecting in Oct. 2018 –Markle has shown up to all of her scheduled royal duties engaging in photo opps and taking pictures including overseas royal tours and a lavish baby shower in New York City. In addition to being in the public eye, Markle and the prince have also been preparing to move into their new estate at Frogmore House and split their household from Prince William and Duchess Kate Middleton.

Though we’ve adored the former actress’ sleek maternity style and smiling face, we’ve probably seen the last photos of Meghan Markle and her adorable first baby bump. This is why we probably won’t see any new pictures of the pregnant duchess.

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On Women’s Day, #MeghanMarkle was named the vice president of The Queen’s Commonwealth Trust. While attending the International Women’s Day panel hosted by the trust, Markle revealed that just like us she does watch the streaming service and that one documentary in particular, Feminists: What Were They Thinking? made an impact on her. She said, “I had seen this documentary on Netflix about feminism, and one of the things they said during pregnancy was ‘I feel the embryonic kicking of feminism.’ I loved that, so boy or girl, whatever it is, we hope that that’s the case with our little bump.” Head to the link in the bio to find out more about the discussion.

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Meghan Markle just began her maternity leave

Though there has been no official announcement from Buckingham Palace –it looks like Meghan Markle has just begun her maternity leave. Since Baby Sussex is due to make his or her appearance in late April or early May, this seems like the perfect time for the duchess to begin nesting.

Buckingham Palace said in a statement that Markle does not “currently have any more official engagements scheduled.” Vanity Fair has previously reported that Markle wanted to work right up until her due date –and that could very well be the case. However, she’s no longer going to be attending any public engagements or taking any pictures. Instead, the duchess will focus on her new home and preparing for the baby. She will attend “several private meetings” before she gives birth.

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How will Meghan Markle spend her maternity leave?

Markle will be taking the time to put the final touches on her new home. The duchess will also use this time to rest and bond with her mom, Doria Ragland who is rumored to be flying to the U.K. soon so that she can be on hand to help the duchess with her bundle of joy. Mostly, Markle will be enjoying some much-needed peace and quiet which means not having to be picture-perfect for the cameras and the public. .

A source told HELLO!, “Harry and Meghan will have plenty of privacy as Frogmore Cottage is located in the Home Park, which is off limits to the public. This means they can enjoy country walks, with Meghan able to push her buggy around the park without being snapped by photographers or members of the public.”

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Will Prince Harry take paternity leave?

We’re sure Prince Harry will keep the same hectic schedule that he already has until Baby Sussex’s arrival. This just means we’re going to have to get used to seeing the red-headed prince solo for a while. However, he may decide to take a few weeks of paternity leave when Markle gives birth. For now, the Duke of Sussex can expect his daily commute to get a bit longer. Frogmore House is located in Windsor, so it’s roughly 45-minutes away from London where the duke and duchess’ offices are located.

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n 1936, This ‘Vogue’ Editor Changed The Way The World Thought About Single Women

In the summer of 1936, a short, snappy, and stealthily radical self-help book for single women became a surprise bestseller. In the depths of the Great Depression, Live Alone and Like It: A Guide for the Extra Woman celebrated women’s pleasure and glorified their independence. The book offered "old maids" and "spinsters" an enviable new identity. Instead of "extra women," surplus to society’s requirements, they could reinvent themselves as "Live-Aloners," defined by what they did, not what they lacked. The book’s author, Marjorie Hillis, was a Vogue editor and the daughter of a minister, but by the time she was in her 40s, she was preaching a gospel of breakfast in bed, a well-fitted suit, and a perfectly mixed Manhattan. Her approach to single life was pragmatic, not moralistic. The odds were good that her readers would find themselves alone at some point in their lives, she wrote, “even if only now and then between husbands." When that happened, what were they going to do about it?

Unlike many books aimed at single women at the time, Live Alone was singularly uninterested in helping them find a man. (Although, to the publishers’ surprise, plenty of male readers picked up the book and helped make it a hit; President Roosevelt was snapped reading it on his summer vacation.) Despite this, men barely register in the book’s philosophy. They’re useful for making up a bridge foursome or putting up a shelf, but they aren’t necessary to women’s happiness, and their presence guarantees nothing. Live Alone is coy about sex, generally recommending that a woman avoid "affairs" entirely until she’s in her 30s and knows what she wants. The chapter titled "The Pleasures of a Single Bed" is almost entirely about early nights, fancy bedclothes, and breakfast on a tray. But its tongue-in-cheek title is obviously deliberate, poking fun at the centuries-old, sexualized anxiety about what women do by themselves behind closed doors.

The prospect of a woman’s self-sufficient pleasure is threatening and invites disruption — just ask anyone who has tried to read a book alone at a bar. We’re used to thinking of pleasure as something decadent, selfish, and fragile; today, it’s reframed as “self-care,” as though it’s only acceptable to treat ourselves kindly if it’s a kind of therapy, repairing ourselves to face the working world again. But for Marjorie Hillis, guilt-free pleasure was a declaration of intent, for a woman to live life on her terms. It was the source of the Live-Aloner’s happiness, and her power.

Her road to that philosophy was long, and unlikely. Born in Peoria, Illinois, in 1889, Marjorie Hillis moved with her family to Brooklyn at the age of 10. Her father was head of a prominent church, and her mother was a conventional Victorian wife, who believed that women could only find fulfillment in marriage and family life. When Marjorie, who considered herself "undeniably plain," took a job at Vogue magazine, it was only supposed to last until she married. But she discovered that she loved the work, so when no husband came along, she kept at it. Vogue taught her to value fashion as a source of confidence, and she reminded her readers how hard it was to make a good first impression "in run-down heels and an unbecoming hat." It also taught her that what she valued most in her life was her own independence. In 1929, the year she turned 40, the national crisis of the Wall Street Crash was overshadowed in her own life by the deaths of her parents within a year of each other. Marjorie packed up her family’s suburban home and fled back to the city, to build the life she wanted, by herself.

Marjorie Hillis worked between the major feminist "waves," in an era defined more by economic woes rather than gender politics. It was a boom era for self-help, when readers wanted and needed to hear that success was possible, and that they could triumph over the economy’s fearfully stacked odds if they greeted the world with a smile and a positive mental attitude. Live Alone and Like It was unusual in being aimed at women, but it also emphasized the importance of optimism and self-belief. When it sold more than 100,000 copies in its first three months of publication, Marjorie traveled the country preaching her message, and department stores arranged tie-in promotions for all the items — from cocktail shakers to negligées — that the Live-Aloner needed for her glamorous solo existence. Her publishers scrambled to catch up to the fact that a book they had thought of as a fun curiosity was becoming a social movement before their eyes. Its success made single women visible in the culture in a way that they’d never really been before, at least not in a way that was aspirational rather than pitiable.

Marjorie quickly produced a sequel, Orchids on Your Budget, a guide to frugal yet fashionable living which nevertheless remained far more aspirational than realistic. Next, Corned Beef and Caviar for the Live-Aloner, which she wrote with a Vogue colleague, offered a collection of recipes for the solo hostess. In 1939, she published both a book of poetry about single women in New York, and a guide to the city for Live-Aloners who were visiting the vast World’s Fair. Critics said her books spun a fantasy that only the richest women could achieve, yet the Live-Alone spirit had an impact beyond the women who could afford to emulate its author directly. For all of the department store promotions and energetic marketing, Hillis never suggested that you could simply buy your way to happiness: It was a question of knowing yourself and your values, and choosing accordingly.

In June 1939, just three years after Marjorie Hillis had first become a household name, newspapers reported with astonishment and glee that the nation’s spinster-in-chief was getting married after all, at the age of 49. They crowed that she had betrayed her readers, and her philosophy, by announcing her engagement to a wealthy widower in his 60s, the founder of a chain of grocery stores. Marjorie protested in vain that she had never said the single life was better than being married, only that it could, and should, be enjoyed when it came. But the jokes at her expense were too easy to make. During her marriage, as World War II raged, she retreated into the luxurious obscurity of married life.

The turbulence of the Depression and the war made Americans receptive to new ways of living, including the idea that women needed to work to support themselves and their families. But after the war, there was a powerful resurgence of the idea that women’s highest purpose was childbearing and housekeeping. As 1950s dawned, Marjorie Hillis’s husband died suddenly, after just 10 years of marriage. Once again, her response to personal tragedy was to pack up and move to a solo apartment in the heart of the city, and start to write. Her 1951 book for divorcees and widows, You Can Start All Over, was tempered by her own grief, but still celebrated the independence and happiness of single life. In the crushingly conformist climate of the 1950s, however, nobody wanted to hear that there might be another way for women to be happy.

By the late 1960s, the heyday of Helen Gurley Brown’s Cosmopolitan magazine and Sex and the Single Girl, Marjorie Hillis was a refined relic. In the photograph on the back cover of her final book, 1967’s Keep Going and Like It, she looks like a glamorous dowager — albeit one with a wicked sense of humor and some stories to tell. But she was out of step with the times. No political radical, she spoke from a position of considerable social privilege, and didn’t acknowledge the extent to which race and class limited women’s choices, nor how difficult it could be for them to succeed professionally in a working world dominated by men. Women across America were beginning to realize that what they needed was not individual happiness, but collective change.

Yet there is still something subversive in Hillis’s call for women to live exactly as they chose — to “be a Communist, be a stamp collector, or a Ladies’ Aid worker, if you must, but for heaven’s sake be something!” She was radical in her awareness that singleness was not just the happy, voluntary, temporary state of the young but that older women, widows, and divorcées had a right to their own pleasure and needed to defend it throughout their lives. Even today, it’s hard for a woman to declare that she has made her choice to live alone, and not have people assume it’s a fallback option, or denial, or just what she’s doing until she meets someone. There are still limited ways of talking about happiness, fulfillment, and a good life outside of the model of the nuclear family. As Marjorie Hillis preached, exercising the right to live your life as you choose is still a political act.

Joanna Scutts is the author of The Extra Woman: How Marjorie Hillis Led a Generation of Women to Live Alone and Like It.

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The promotion will run from 12:00 – 23:59 each day on Friday 15th March, Saturday 16th March and Sunday 17th March (The ‘Promotional Period’).

Who is eligible? registered players, UK&ROI residents aged 18+ years old.

How do I qualify?

Login to your account during the Promotional Period and check your balance to see if you have been credited £1,000 cash.  Winners will be selected at random by a computerized randomiser tool. VF2011 Limited will perform the draw.

What can I win?

£1,000 cash will be credited to one random account per day during the promotional period.

What are the restrictions?

Player must login to their account before 23:59 on the same day to claim prize otherwise the £1,000 cash will be removed from the players account at 00:00.

Standard Conditions

  1. The promoter of this promotion is VF2011 Limited ("Promoter").
  2. By participating in this promotion, you will be deemed to have accepted, and agree to be bound by, these terms and conditions and the Terms and Conditions for
  3. Players must be resident in the United Kingdom, and must be aged 18 years or over. Proof of identity, address and age must be provided on request. If you do not provide this information, or we are not fully satisfied that what has been provided meets the requirements of applicable law, we may withhold and/or retain any and all bonuses until such time as this has been fulfilled.
  4. If you have any issues, please contact our Customer Servicesteam.
  5. No responsibility is accepted for game plays or stakes lost, corrupted or delayed in transmission for any reason.
  6. If an act, omission, event or circumstance occurs which is beyond the reasonable control of the Promoter and which prevents the Promoter from complying with these terms and conditions the Promoter will not be liable for any failure to perform or delay in performing its obligation.
  7. Employees of the Playtech plc group, the News UK group or any other company associated or involved in the promotion are not eligible to enter this promotion.
  8. The promotion is limited to one per registered account / person. If we find that you have used more than one account to participate, we reserve the right to withhold payment of any promotional amount or bonus earned on the duplicate account(s).
  9. Your personal details will be kept in accordance with relevant data protection laws and our Privacy Policy. We will use the personal details you supplied for the administration of this promotion.
  10. These terms and conditions shall be exclusively governed by and construed in accordance with the laws of England. The entrant irrevocably submits to the exclusive jurisdiction of the courts of England and Wales.
  11. Please play responsibly. For more information, visit our Responsible Gamblingpage.

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Kaitlyn Bristowe Uses This Rosy Scrub for Glowing, Baby-Soft Skin

When we walk out of a spa or salon after a refreshing experience, we feel like new people. But sadly, after a day or two, the feeling fades. Our skin loses its softness, our hair loses its shape and we lose hope. Our life’s mission is to find out just how to preserve that feeling, even when we haven’t been to the spa or salon for months. With this at-home scrub, we’re taking a huge step in the right direction. Or maybe it’s less of a step and more of a record-breaking leap!

The Herbivore Botanicals Coco Rose Coconut Oil Body Polish Opens a New Window. is pretty, pink and pushing the limits of self-care. We knew we just had to look deeper into it when we saw it on the edge of former Bachelorette and fan-favorite podcaster Kaitlyn Bristowe Opens a New Window. ’s bathtub in an Instagram story. Bristowe has been glowing from the inside out lately, and at first we thought maybe it was because of her romantic new beau, Jason Tartick Opens a New Window. , but it looks like she had this little skincare secret all along!

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Shoppers can’t get enough of this polish, feeling like they literally have new skin. One called it a “fun spa treatment” for their very own shower, while another called it “a miracle for sensitive skin,” saying it left their own “baby soft” and “glowing,” all the while leaving behind a light, lovely scent for all-day reminder to take a deep breath and relax. One shopper made sure to point out how “a little goes a long way,” saying that the jar will last us a long time. It’s a reusable glass jar, by the way, so even when we do run out of body polish, we can keep it around for decor purposes. Plant a succulent in it or use it to store bobby pins!

This is a sugar scrub Opens a New Window. . Sugar is a fantastic, natural ingredient for sloughing away dead skin cells, and it certainly adds a yummy element to bath time. We can’t recommend tasting it, but we’ll already be left more than satisfied after polishing up our body with it! Gentle exfoliation is key to having soft skin all year round.

What’s mixed in with the sugar? First, we have virgin coconut oil proteins, which Herbivore Botanicals claims keep our skin “healthy and rejuvenated.” There’s also Moroccan rose, which may target aging skin with a loss of firmness, and also help to heal cellular damage. Bye, flakes and rough patches! The last key ingredient is pink clay, a detoxifying ingredient that may leave our skin looking radiant and hydrated.

Mix all of these ingredients together to form this moisturizing body polish, which has a light, heavenly scent of coconut and rose petals. With no artificial ingredients or added fragrance, this polish is heavily recommended for sensitive skin, claiming to be “soothing, cooling and anti-inflammatory.” This means we shouldn’t step out of the bath completely red and raw — unless our bath water was too hot, perhaps. We love a steaming hot bath, but try not to soak too long, because hot water may leave us dry and dehydrated!

This scrub is also free of alcohol, sulfates, parabens, phthalates and gluten. As all of Herbivore Botanicals products are, it’s also completely cruelty-free! Herbivore Botanicals makes sure to ethically source all of its ingredients, which makes us feel even better about using this perfect pink polish!

Other potential benefits of using this scrub are cellular health, tissue repair and clean pores. One benefit we’d like to add is that it just feels really, really great to be able to scrub a bad day away, washing our stresses and bad moods down the drain!

To use this body polish, we just scoop some out of the jar with our hand and massage it all over our body. But don’t rinse right away! Wait a minute or two, letting the product soak in for maximum hydration. Then we can rinse and finish up. Oil products are divine in the bath, but things could get slightly slippery, so just be careful while holding the jar or standing up!

Not everyone has tried a body polish like this before. This isn’t the same as a shower gel with a few beads in it; this is the real deal. We think everyone’s going to notice, and absolutely love, the difference!

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