My husband will do anything to avoid being at home with me and the kids

DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband won’t spend any time with me, and it’s making me feel completely isolated.

I gave up work before the birth of our sons, aged nine and five, because I didn’t want to miss them growing up.

I thought we’d be that family who all sat down to dinner together and talked about our days.

But my husband rarely gets home before 10pm. At weekends, he’s always helping friends and family out with DIY.

I feel like he will do anything to avoid being home with us. He’s 44 and I’m 37.

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I’ve tried talking to him about it, but he says, “All you do is moan and pick on me. I’m the one out working while you lounge around the house all day”.

Before our boys, I was working and socialising until late. Now I spend most of the day alone. I’m miserable.

DEIDRE SAYS: Your husband isn’t taking on board how you’re feeling.

Talk to him again, and say you both need to make more time for each other.

I’m sending you my support pack Looking After Your Relationship to help.

It also sounds like you’re still adjusting to being a stay-at-home mum.

Now your boys are at school, you could try part-time work or joining a club, which would give you an opportunity to meet new people.

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