Tracey Cox reveals the four new sex positions that guarantee orgasm

The four sex moves that guarantee an orgasm! Real women give Tracey Cox their verdict on angling, rocking, shallowing and pairing after research PROVED they lead to a climax

  • Researchers at University of Indiana School of Medicine asked 4,000 women what makes vaginal penetration really pleasurable for them 
  • Identified four key techniques: Shallowing, Rocking, Angling and Pairing
  • All involve stimulating the invisible parts of the clitoris to lead to orgasm
  • Tracey Cox asked real women to try out the techniques and give their verdict  

Something hugely significant for women happened last week.

Researchers identified and named the methods women use to make intercourse more pleasurable for them.

This may not sound like a big deal if you’re a man reading this. But if you’re a woman who has always struggled to orgasm during intercourse – that’s 80 per cent of us, by the way – this will be the best news you’ve heard in years.

Co-author of the study, Dr Devon Hensel (assistant professor in Sociology at the University of Indiana School of Medicine) wanted to give women simple, descriptive words that would describe what they needed from their partners.

‘Imagine not having the language to describe what you want in other parts of life,’ she says. ‘Not being able to say, ‘I want more whipped cream on my hot chocolate’.’

Dr Hensel found it ‘incomprehensible’ to her as a researcher that women didn’t have names for the methods that do work to help them orgasm. Words that could communicate what they want and need to help close the ‘orgasm gap’.

She spoke to 4,000 women in the US and asked, ‘What discovery have you made that really made vaginal penetration more pleasurable for you?’. One thousand of the women explained their techniques in more detail via video interviews.

Why is this so important?

I wanted to stand up and cheer when I read this research.

It’s not just reassuring, it provides helpful, easy to implement solutions to help solve a problem that affects up to 80 per cent of all women (yes, I have already said that but just in case you missed it first time around).

Despite us knowing for 2,000 years that orgasm only results from stimulation of the clitoris (this was made clear in the Kama Sutra), women continue to think something is wrong with them if they don’t climax with their partners during intercourse.

I watch women’s faces when I explain this and I can see that, intellectually, they get it. But their emotional brain is whispering, ‘Yes but that’s not what I see on TV or porn, women have intercourse orgasms no problem at all. And my partner says none of his other girlfriends had a problem.’

They did.

It’s generally agreed by most researchers that the vagina has no anatomical structure that can cause an orgasm. If women report a ‘vaginal orgasm’ it’s come from stimulation of the surrounding erectile organs.

Researchers at University of Indiana School of Medicine asked 4,000 women what makes vaginal penetration really pleasurable for them, and now Tracey Cox reveals the four positions that increase your chances of orgasm

These techniques identified by the study work because they stimulate ‘hidden’ parts of the clitoris, the bits you can’t see.

Here’s how to use angling, rocking, shallowing and pairing to improve your experience of intercourse – and a verdict from the women I asked to test out the methods.

ANGLING

Angling involves moving your pelvis to adjust the angle at which the penis, sex toy or finger is penetrating the vagina.

This might involve rotating your pelvis or raising or lowering the pelvis or hips to make sure it’s hitting the right spot.

Women who are able to orgasm through penetration often do this instinctively: you know what feels good and what doesn’t.

But it’s also about having the confidence to say, ‘Do you mind if I just adjust a few things here so it’s hitting the right spot?’.

And feeling able to suggest choosing positions that are more female friendly. Woman-on-top or ‘doggie’ style continue to be reported as the intercourse positions most likely to result in penetrative orgasm for women.

Claire is 32 and doesn’t define her relationship with her male partner as serious. She describes herself as confident in bed.

‘I’ve never been able to orgasm through intercourse, even though I do enjoy having something inside me. I’m quite active in bed, in that I don’t lie back and think of England. But I’m less active during intercourse. I tried all the variations: grinding, hips up, hips down and I also tried tilting my pelvis to one side and the other. I didn’t orgasm but I was surprised at how different it felt, depending on the angle. It definitely improved the experience for me.’

Verdict: 7/10 

ROCKING

What is it? 

Rocking refers to rocking against the base of a penis or sex toy so it rubs against the clitoris consistently. The traditional in-out method of thrusting doesn’t maintain the much-needed consistent pressure on the clitoris.

This technique features heavily in the CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) method for achieving orgasm during penetration.

CAT sounds more complicated than just rocking – he rides higher than usual, sliding his body up an inch or so, to enable the base of the penis rubs against the clitoris. But it’s the same principle and known to be an extremely effective way to up the orgasm quota for women during intercourse.

Why haven’t we all ditched the old-style, ineffective way of thrusting for this new style? Because it involves rethinking what comes naturally for most men: and human beings are essentially lazy and don’t like change.

What I like about calling it ‘rocking’ is that it’s an uncomplicated term that everyone understands. It sounds easy to implement and it is.

Who tried it?  

Sophia is 41, married, and is able to climax through penetration (her on top) but not on a regular basis.

WHY THESE FOUR POSITIONS WORK 

All four of these techniques work because they stimulate the inner clitoris, not just the bit you can see.

Lots of women aren’t even aware there is more.

The clitoris isn’t just a tiny, little nub, it covers quite a large area. Underneath, there’s the body of the clitoris which is about 1-2 inches big. Then the clitoris ‘wishbones’ into two legs of 3-4 inches which run underneath and down the outside of the vulva (picture the bit near your thighs).

If you focus on purely trying to stimulate the tip during intercourse, you are restricted in what you can achieve. But if you aim to stimulate the inner clitoris, you have a much higher chance of penetration leading to an orgasm for women.

Or, at the very least, making it a hell of a lot more interesting and pleasurable.   

‘I don’t know why, but I immediately chose the missionary position to try this out. I guess because I thought it would be easier to achieve a rocking motion with my partner on top of me. It was OK but I knew it wasn’t going to make me come. So, I switched to straddling him and made him stay absolutely still while I positioned myself so I could rock against the base of his penis. My husband said it was a bit boring for him because he was just lying there, letting me use his penis as something to masturbate against, but he was very happy that I did have an orgasm with him inside me. And he had his afterward – thrusting the usual way – so we were both winners. I would definitely try this again.’

Verdict: 10/10 

SHALLOWING

What is it?

This technique involves a penetrative touch – from either lips, a tongue, a penis, fingers or a sex toy – but just inside the entrance of the vagina. Stimulation isn’t on the outside or deep inside: it stays shallow.

This works because a lot of the nerve endings in the vagina are concentrated at the entrance (if they were intensely spread throughout the vaginal canal, childbirth would be unbearable).

Who tried it? 

Sara is 20 and single but enjoying casual sex.

‘I tried this twice, with two different partners. I’d imagine it works better if you know your partner well. The first guy I tried it with wasn’t interested in the slightest in knowing why I only wanted his fingers to massage the entrance of my vagina rather than thrust them in and out. He told me I was ‘weird’ for wanting it that way. The second guy was intrigued and open to being educated. I told him I’d been asked to try out the technique and he was all for it. Of the four techniques, this was the least appealing to me – I use rocking and angling a lot. But the sensation of stimulating just the entrance was interesting: I didn’t like it at first but once I relaxed into it, I enjoyed it. I wouldn’t be able to orgasm that way but I can see why other women like it.’

HOW TO SUGGEST TRYING A NEW TECHNIQUE WITH YOUR PARTNER 

Don’t do it during sex. The best time to talk about sex is after you’ve finished or another time when you’re chatting and getting on well. People don’t listen properly if they’re aroused and wanting to just get on with it.

Don’t make a big deal of it. Make it part of everyday conversation. Say, ‘I was reading about a study they’ve just done about techniques women use to have more orgasms during intercourse. One of them really spoke to me. Can we try it next time?’.

Prepare for questions.What do you say if your partner says, ‘But hang on a minute, how come you’ve always been fine just with penetration without any extra stimulation before?’. Ideally, you’d take a big breath and come clean, explaining that nearly all women need extra stimulation. But if you don’t feel brave enough, simply say, ‘I know, right? I think my body’s changing. I seem to need different things now’.

Verdict: 6/10 

PAIRING

This is a better name for what you may have been doing all along: stimulating the clitoris externally while being penetrated internally.

This usually involves either you or your partner reaching down during vaginal intercourse or penetration, to stimulate the tip of the clitoris with your fingers or a sex toy. In other words, pairing intercourse with another method.

Most couples find it easier to hold a slimline vibrator on the clitoris, rolling it around firmly or holding it still, during penetration. It’s not easy keeping up a regular motion with your fingers during intercourse (remember the game where you rub your stomach and your head?) and they’re easily knocked out of the way.

Who tried it? 

Michaela is 27 and has been living with her girlfriend for three years.

‘It’s much easier being a woman in a same sex relationship. You don’t have to explain about needing clitoral stimulation because she already knows. We use pairing all the time. My partner uses a dildo to penetrate me and I’ll simultaneously work on my clitoris with a vibrator. My orgasm rate is almost 100 percent this way. My partner doesn’t enjoy penetration – it’s external clitoral stimulation all the way for her. But I like the feeling of being filled up as well as being stimulated clitorally.’

Verdict: 10/10 

Listen to Tracey’s new podcast, Mom’s Don’t Have Time to Have sex, on Spotify, Podbean or iHeartRadio. You’ll find more advice and her books and product ranges on traceycox.com.

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