A bit harsh, no?
A woman has shared on Reddit how her maid of honour kicked out another bridesmaid on her instruction, after the bridesmaid’s dress was deemed too ‘revealing’.
Writing on Reddit, the bride said: ‘I 27f [age 27 female] got married to my husband 29m [age 29 male] last week. I asked my friend from university Ava, 26f, to be a bridesmaid.
‘I grew up living with my parents and extended family quite religiously and dressed modestly as my family were very strict and traditional.
‘While I don’t agree with most of their ideas, I do follow them to avoid arguments.
‘My parents don’t share the same ideas and are less religious and have always supported me, but do ask me to respect our extended family’s policies on dressing and culture.
‘Ava is a very passionate feminist and I know she wouldn’t agree with some of my family’s policies […]’
The new wife picked peach as the dress colour and said her bridesmaids could pick whichever style they liked.
‘I only asked for the dress to be modest as my wedding would include some of my extended family,’ she added.
‘Ava said she was getting her dress custom made and never showed me a picture as it was still getting made.
‘At the wedding, she comes in wearing a very tight, revealing peach dress. My MOH said she would handle it and kicked her out.
‘Ava has said that the dress was her way of expressing herself. She is not talking to me anymore, but I genuinely don’t think I am in the wrong.’
Someone replied what we were all thinking: ‘Hard to judge without seeing the dress. Some people’s ideas of what counts as “modest” differ.’
And people seem to be split on this.
Many think the bride should have picked the dresses herself to avoid issues.
One wrote: ‘You gave the bridesmaids free rein over the style, you didn’t ask her to describe it or send pictures, and I bet you didn’t pay for it either.’
Although, others think the bridesmaid is in the wrong.
Someone added: ‘Still doesn’t take a genius to figure out “modest”. When asked, she ADMITS she was expressing herself and making a statement.
‘There is a fine line between ignorance and malice my friend. And for me, it’s been crossed.’
Another Reddit user put: ‘Unless this was dress was wildly inappropriate, to such an extreme that any reasonable person would be appalled by it being worn to a wedding, which I certainly do not believe to be the case here…
‘Then OP seems like a bit of an asshole for not playing a bigger role in dress choices. Let’s be honest, everyone’s idea of modest is going to be slightly different.’
It’s up for debate.
Wedding outfit etiquette
There are some basics everyone knows – the most obvious being, don’t wear white.
If in doubt about what to do or wear, ask the couple in advance, says celebrity wedding planner Liz Taylor. Make sure you don’t get in the way of the bride having her moment.
‘Guests should never try to upstage the bride,’ she previously told Metro. ‘If you are privileged enough to be invited to attend a wedding day, it’s your responsibility to dress in an appropriate style and colour.
‘Guests trying to upstage the bride is rare, but it does happen. I once had a mother of the bride that wanted to wear white to the day, and indeed did, which had the bride in tears. She was devastated.’
If there’s a dress code, such as a colour or style, stick to it – even if you don’t personally like it.
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