A WOMAN has claimed that her husband cheating on her was "the best thing that ever happened" to her marriage.
Charity Craig, 45, said it was "devastating" when she learned her husband was having an affair over a decade into their marriage but now they're "happier than ever."
Charity met her husband Matt at church camp when they were teenagers.
The couple married when they were just 21 and 25 in January 2004 and have four children together.
She discovered her partner, Matt, 40, was having an affair with someone he met through work, in 2012.
Charity followed a "gut feeling" and discovered incriminating text messages, which led to a confrontation between the pair.
Matt, then a music pastor, decided to stick with his wife and kids, leaving his job and changing his number.
Initially, Charity didn't think she would be able to forgive her spouse and the pair separated.
However, within a year, the couple was back together and stronger than ever.
According to the pair, they both worked on self-improvement and had therapy to become the best versions of themselves.
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The founder of a jewelry company, said: "This affair turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to our marriage.
"It shattered everything but we were in a toxic unhealthy place. It was devastating and it shatters your entire world.
"You can't drop a grenade in your home and come away undamaged, but it became a very personal journey and now we are happier than ever," she said.
Before she discovered the affair, Orlando native Charity said they were "happily married and good friends."
She continued: "Then he started acting suspicious and I started stalking his every move. It all exploded from there."
Matt, now the director of a marketing company, finally came clean in the summer of 2012, after his wife confronted him.
Matt said: "I was working over 60 hours a week in a high-stress position. I spent more time at work than with my family."
The married couple broke up for a year and planned to divorce, while Matt moved out to live with his friend.
But the pair slowly came back together after they both worked on themselves.
She said: "It's not as cut and dry as it seemed, we had to weed through the mess.
"He actually did the work and we moved forward together," Charity explained.
She also did "inner work" and discovered she was battling with co-dependency and insecurity.
She said: "I didn't know how unhappy I was. Even though I didn't seem to have anger issues, I used the silent treatment as a form of control and manipulation.
"I would get triggered and explode and rage," Charity detailed.
After a lot of self-work, the two finally came back together romantically on Valentine's Day 2013.
Matt explained: "I did everything possible to regain her trust. I would put my phone down on the table, straight up.
"It's been amazing. It's helped our family. I have a full understanding of her emotions and can be open with her," he said.
Charity added: "I have spent countless hours becoming a better version of myself.
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"We were two empty vessels trying to suck the life out of each other," she said.
But now the couple understands they "are each responsible for our own happiness."
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