BEING a parent is tough and in the hardest moment it's totally normal to want to reverse the clock when you had no one relying on you.
But one mum has revealed she wishes she never had her children claiming parenthood has 'ruined my life.'
The mum clearly stated that depression wasn't the cause of her regret – rather she never wanted kids until her husband told her she did.
Taking to Reddit the mum confessed all – and people were quick to share their thoughts.
In the post, she wrote: "I would do absolutely anything to go back 8 years and find a different husband and not have my children.
"Don't get me wrong, I love my husband dearly, he is the most wonderful person, it was just that him wanting children changed my mind about not wanting them so now I wish I met someone else.
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"I feel like I've ruined my life.
"There are some great moments, but I just feel like they don't wipe out all the tough moments."
Knowing she couldn't change her life or leave her children, she asked how to make the best out of the situation so she could still be a great mum.
"I regret having children. It's not PPD (postpartum depression). It is regret. I would take a chance for a do-over in a heartbeat. Now I've acknowledged that how can I maximise my happiness and still be the best possible parents to my children?" she added.
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The anonymous mum who has three children, including twins, claimed she was the 'poster child' for a woman likely to regret becoming a parent.
She continued: "I was over 35 but under 40 when my first child was born, with higher education (I have a two BAs and a masters degree), well travelled, and used to having a decent amount of disposable income to spend on herself."
Not only was she upset to saying goodbye to her old life – she also revealed the pressure of her biological clock plus her husband wanting children pushed her into a decision she now regrets to keep her husband around.
At 32, she was still adamant she would never have children, but after people told her she wouldn't regret it she decided to start a family.
Except she does regret it and constantly sobs when seeing childless people giving her dirty looks when her child throws a tantrum.
"I want to cry with jealousy every time someone gives me a dirty look while my 2.5 year old has a meltdown in the supermarket – because that used to be me, but now I am the one stuck dealing with this kid having a fit," she explained.
And that's not all, she was sick of being tired all the time and never having a lie in – blaming her now active life as parent for making her look old.
"The lack of disposable income hurts in the sense that I don't get my hair done as much, I don't get my nails done anymore, I don't dress as nicely. I feel frumpy, even though I try not to be," she explained.
Despite missing her spare time, the mum said she was prepared to make the most out of her situation and felt bad for feeling this way.
"I feel awful for feeling this way," she said. "I wish I could be one of those mothers who just loves being a parent and is always saying how amazing their life is and blah blah blah but I'm not."
The Reddit post shared on the Parenting subreddit garnered a huge response from fellow mums and dads.
Many claimed it was her own fault and that she wouldn't be happy with or without kids.
One person wrote: "Sounds like you would have issues even without kids , you have about 3 degrees but still want to go and change your education – you seem to get jealous of what other people are doing – travel ect, their baby pics when you didn't have any.
"You have travelled a lot but still not content. Classic case of the grass is greener by someone overly entitled. Didn't all your travel and degrees teach you to live in the moment?"
Another commented: "She's overly entitled."
Meanwhile, others took a much more sympathetic approach, a third said: "I hear you. I love my kids, but it is 10x more work with kids than I realised before having them."
"Why are you the one stuck at home with three kids if your husband is the one who wanted them? You went from one extreme to the next – from having all the freedom in the world to being stuck at home all day all the time. Would it be an option for you to swap roles?” claimed a fourth.
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Someone else added: "To me the answer is easy – you need to stop being a Stay at home mom (at least a full time one). You need help lady. Put your smart brain to work and figure out another option."
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