DEAR DEIDRE: MADE a major mistake leaving my average-looking husband for a handsome colleague who turned out to be the most selfish lover I have ever had.
I’m a woman of 28 and I got married two years ago. My husband is 30 and a lovely guy but he’s not much to look at.
He’s the most considerate lover I’ve ever had though.
Recently a new bloke joined our team at work and all the girls were talking about the “hot guy”.
He’s 27, single and clearly spends a lot of time in the gym.
He started chatting to me in the kitchen one day and we bonded over our love of festivals.
We flirted and you could cut the sexual tension with a knife. He asked me out for a drink but I told him I was married.
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Instead of being put off, he seemed even more determined and boasted that he loved a challenge.
From then on he made a massive effort to chat to me whenever he could and when I mentioned I was going to a local festival with friends, he said he would see me there.
We spent a very drunken evening dancing and in the early hours snuck back to his tent.
We had sex but it was over in minutes — with him blaming the beer.
From then on we would meet whenever we could. But when my husband saw a message and confronted me, I felt so guilty, I packed my bags and left.
It’s been two months now and sex with my colleague is all about him. He does nothing for me.
I have been going home to see my cat and always end up in bed with my husband. He’s definitely the best lover.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You were too quick to have your head turned by looks.
Your husband may not have it all in your eyes, but he has got many positive traits.
Remember why you fell in love and married him.
Your cheating was no doubt devastating for your husband. If he still loves you, you owe it to him to plead for forgiveness.
I hear from many couples who have made up after infidelity.
As long as they no longer take one another for granted, their relationship often becomes stronger.
Do the right thing. End things with the guy from work.
If your husband will have you back, my support pack about cheating will show you where to go from here.
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