DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I spotted a photo of my fiance’s ex-wife and their son on his phone, I threw a vase at him.
It missed, luckily, but I’m mortified by my behaviour.
I have a respectful family and my parents never shouted or raised their voices. I was always surrounded with love.
I’m 29 and I don’t know where these jealous rages come from. My fiance is 38 and he’s got a little boy of nine from his first marriage.
I want to settle down and be happy but I often do things to threaten our relationship, often being totally irrational when these feelings of jealousy take a hold.
I get enraged when his son comes to stay, but why? He’s only a kid, but his presence makes me want to scream at him.
I broke up his Lego building when he last visited, saying I’d knocked it by accident. It was a lie.
My fiance always forgives me but I know I’m jeopardising what we have.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’re used to being the centre of attention and my guess is this resonates from your adoring and calm parents.
You love your fiance but you don’t want to share him.
If this relationship is to go the distance, you’ll have to accept he comes as a package with his son, and his ex-wife to some degree.
My support pack on Jealousy shows you how best to deal with the upset when the red mist descends.
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