I refused to go to my husband’s celebratory dinner when he got a promotion because I don’t like steak, but people say I’ve been selfish
- The unknown woman took to US site Reddit to find out if she was in the wrong
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A woman has been branded ‘selfish’ after turning down a celebratory dinner with her family because she doesn’t like steak.
The anonymous woman took to US social forum Reddit to explain that her husband had been ‘working really hard’ over the last few years to get a promotion at his company.
She stated that she was ‘really proud’ of him but couldn’t possibly attend a meal at his favorite restaurant because she wasn’t ‘fond’ of steak, and their chicken and fish servings left much to be desired.
As the mother refused to budge, her husband attended the dinner with his parents and children instead – who all returned home with a takeaway box shortly afterwards so that she wouldn’t look ‘bad’.
Posted to the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum, many lambasted the woman for being ‘selfish’, to which she later apologized and insisted on taking him back to the restaurant in order to make amends.
An anonymous woman has been branded ‘selfish’ on Reddit for turning down a celebratory dinner with her husband because she didn’t like the food (Stock image)
She explained: ‘My husband has been working really hard the last two years to advance at his company and he finally got the promotion he’s been after.
‘I’m really, really proud of him. His parents are too and wanted to take us all out to dinner to celebrate.
‘My husband absolutely loves prime rib and there’s only one place in our area that serves it so he picked that restaurant.
‘Thing is, I’m not fond of steak. I’ll eat it but very rarely. I prefer chicken or fish.’
The woman went on to explain that she tried her best to accommodate her husband’s preference and even carried out research on the menu.
She said the eatery had ‘only one fish entrée and two chicken entrées’ and neither tickled her tastebuds.
It was at this point, that the joyous occasion began to unravel.
She wrote: ‘I suggested that he pick someplace else so everyone can eat.
The mother suggested her husband ‘pick something else’ and eventually caused him to celebrate his work promotion without her
‘He refused, citing that we rarely get to go to this place but go to other places in our area regularly which is true.
‘But those places have lots of variety so everyone can eat.
‘He suggested that I ask if they could prepare the fish or chicken without the marinades or sauces but I didn’t want to be difficult for the kitchen staff.’
However the mother had no qualms about being ‘difficult’ when her own husband, who suggested she come along and eat just a dessert.
She continued: ‘His next suggestion was that I order dessert while everyone else ate entrées.
‘Then when we were done, he would take me where I wanted so I could eat dinner while he and the kids ate dessert.
‘So I opted to just not go because I didn’t want to sit there not eating and not having a good time while everyone else was.’
She added that her husband persisted and specially requested her presence at the feast.
Posted to the ‘AmItheA**hole’ forum, many lambasted the woman for being ‘selfish’, to which she later apologized
However she turned him down once more and advised he make haste to catch his dinner reservation in time.
‘He did go but came back a little over an hour later with the kids and they all had to go boxes’ she said.
‘He couldn’t think of what to tell the kids about why I didn’t go when they kept asking without lying or making me sound bad.
‘So he just got an order for them to go and let the kids spend some time with their grandparents talking in the parking lot.
‘I told him he should have stayed but he said that I put him in a bad spot with the kids.
‘He said I knew that he wanted everyone there and that I should’ve just gotten over my picky eating for one night.
‘I maintain if he really wanted us to all eat dinner as a family then he should’ve picked a restaurant with a more accommodating menu’.
One person labelled her a ‘selfish and poor partner’. They added: ‘Don’t lie. It wasn’t that there was nothing you could eat.
‘There was nothing you wanted. You also were too scared to ask the staff for a substitution. It’s one dinner.
‘You won’t starve if you don’t eat everything on the plate, nor will it poison you.
‘Your husband doesn’t get to go to this restaurant he likes often because he is honoring your wishes most of the time, but you can’t deal with it for him one time.
‘You basically told your family “My food preferences are more important than your feelings or supporting you”.
‘Then you left your husband in the awkward spot of having to try and lie for you.
‘Because if he told everyone the real reason you missed the dinner they would be calling you an a**hole like this entire thread is.
The person concluded by instructing the poster to apologize and learn from her mistake.
Another person wrote: ‘Don’t want to be difficult by asking the restaurant to alter their meal, but will c**p all over your husband’s celebratory night?
‘It’s one meal sis, get a plain salad, have some bread and water, get over yourself’.
Meanwhile one person said the act was a cause for divorce: ‘I’m not even married to you and I’m happily fantasizing about divorcing you. You are the a**hole’ they said.
In an updated post, she said despite the comments being ‘harsh’, they were also a kick in the right direction.
She wrote: ‘Some of these comments were pretty harsh but a kick in the pants.
‘I’ve apologized profusely to my husband and I am going to take him to that restaurant this weekend.
‘I’ll buy him some camping gear he’s been eying as a start to making it up to him and changing course’.
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