I had unprotected sex with an escort – now I can't live with the shame | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I was feeling down and lonely I slept with an escort – and now I’m riddled with shame.

My moment of weakness has put my health at risk, and I can’t stop worrying about it.

I’m a 52-year-old man and I have been single for ten years.

I never got married or had kids.

I lost two decades in my 20s and 30s because I was so focused on my career that I never took the time to date or meet anyone.

But now that I’m semi-retired, I’ve been feeling as though there is something missing in my life. I’m at a loss.

I’d love to travel the world, and wish I had a partner to make some memories with.

In August, I was catching up with a friend in the pub. He is single, after the breakdown of his marriage two years ago.

He suggested I try an escort ­service. In his words, I’d get all the benefits of a partner, “without the hassle or hormones”.

I thought it was a ridiculous idea at first. Paying for company seemed desperate. Yet as time went on, I found myself thinking about it more and more.

Eventually, I decided to give it a go.

I found an escort agency online and booked an evening with a woman called Jeanie.

I was nervous but we had a great dinner, discussing our lives, and then headed back to mine for a nightcap.

Things got heated and we ended up having unprotected sex.

The next morning, I felt sick. I couldn’t believe I’d been that stupid to sleep with someone I barely knew, and without a condom.

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Now I can’t stop worrying about my sexual health. What if I’ve caught an STI?

I thought I’d feel better after the encounter, less lonely, and spurred on to find a partner. But now I just feel dirty.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Loneliness is incredibly hard, particularly as we grow older.

Your friend probably had good intentions suggesting using an escort, but this isn’t a long-term solution.

I’m not going to preach to you, as you are fully aware of the dangerous risk you took by having unprotected sex.

Get an STI test as soon as possible. These are available through your GP, or via a sexual health clinic. Information on this is available in my Sexual Health support pack.

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