Ah, Christmas. That time of year when we're rushing around looking for presents and buying loads of food to feed the family.
It's sometimes a very stressful period too, as everyone's got parties to go to or you're hosting friends and family on the big day itself.
We find ourselves having arguments about very small things, just like Hannah Love, 45, a sleep expert from Bracknell did last year with her husband Daryl, 39, about putting up the Christmas tree.
Here, she tells us the funny story and the hilarity that ensued afterwards….
"Me and my husband have been together for 17 years and share Oliver, 15, Ella, 11, and Henry, eight. We met on MySpace. We work brilliantly and we're really happy but we're completely opposite to each other.
At Christmas and all year round, if I could, I'd have an open door policy and have everybody here all the time because I love cooking and entertaining.
We do have people over a lot of the time but my husband is a lot less sociable than me and he's the one who tries to keep me in check at this time of year.
It's usually over things like when I'm trying to buy 10 times as many presents for the kids than what they need or when I'm ordering loads of food and drink for our guests.
He gets grumpy about it, he's grumpy anyway. Last year, we ended up having a silly argument when we were putting up the Christmas tree.
That week, it had been one thing after another because I'd had deliveries for Christmas Day and wine. He was grumbling about me spending money and us having guests over and being a bit of a Grinch.
When it came to us putting the tree up, I told him "Let's put the Christmas tree up and not have any grumpiness tonight."
We put everything up and got the house looking really festive but then I realised that we were missing a box of decorations. I asked him to bring them in but he said we could finish sorting out it out another night.
However, I insisted that we got it all done and he got a bit moody about it but went out to the garage to get the rest of them.
After that, both of us were angry and arguing and I decided to lock all the doors and not let him in until he "sang out loud for all to hear to spread the Christmas cheer", a quote from our favourite family film Elf.
He didn't relent at first and was really miffed but when he got a bit cold after five minutes or so he started singing Santa Clause Is Coming To Town – but it was still too quiet.
Eventually, he sang it properly and loudly and the whole family all burst out laughing and I eventually let him in.
Everything was fine again and we had a lovely evening watching Elf with Baileys and Mince Pies – and he didn't moan again!"
Now, here's some expert tips to keep your relationship healthy in the run-up to Christmas, according to Tina Wilson, Relationship Expert and Wingman Founder….
"Firstly, It might seem counterproductive, but I would recommend not making so many plans that every moment is full.
"Overfilling a schedule of whom you are seeing will just increase both of your stress levels and make you overly tired as you try and fit anything in and overwhelm yourselves. It is too much pressure at a time when you should be enjoying yourselves and relaxing.
"By being more flexible by not confirming too many plans you will be less anxious. As a couple, think about catching up with certain family members either before or after the holidays.
"Your family will very likely understand and would love to see you at a quieter time when you can spend some quality time together," Tina says.
Tina says: "If you're dreading the prospect of spending Christmas with your in-laws and find yourself stressed at the thought, try expressing your feelings to your partner well beforehand.
"If your relationship with your in-laws is awkward or strained, there's nothing more satisfying to them than witnessing discord between you and their son/daughter.
"Therefore, it's crucial to get on the same page with your partner as soon as possible. Consider the idea of inviting them into your space; doing so can help you feel more in control.
"Feeling uncomfortable and on edge in someone else's environment can cause stress, but being in your own home can boost your confidence."
"You can also keep your relationship healthy by limiting your alcohol consumption during the December party season to avoid rows with your partner.
"If you want a drink, sip a glass slowly to prevent excessive drinking. Otherwise, there is a greater likelihood of saying or doing things you will regret.
"It is also wise to avoid having a hangover, as you may feel tired and restless, making it easy to become agitated and snap at your nearest and dearest," Tina says.
Tina says: "If you are more of the planner or the one that takes over any task, try and use this opportunity to become closer by making it a joint effort.
"Don’t make the thought of putting the decorations up a big chore, put some music or a Christmas movie and enjoy spending some quality time together.
"Kids love to make paper chains or throw tinsel on the tree and you can always go back and rearrange it after they are asleep.
"Some of the most memorable moments at Christmas are the lead up not the actual day itself and the feelings of joy it can bring."
Check out Hannah here: https://sleepwellwithhannah.com/
Check out Tina here: https://www.tinawilson.co/
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