DEAR DEIDRE: I’M struggling to look my boss in the eye after having some very raunchy dreams about him.
He is really hot but I never thought of him in a sexual way until I started having very graphic dreams about him in my sleep.
I think I have even orgasmed as a result.
Now I’ve started looking at him in a different way. I’m 31 and he’s 35.
I know he is off limits as he’s married, but now I can’t stop fantasising about him, even when I’m awake.
I’ve started to think about him when I’m having sex with my new boyfriend, 34.
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How do I stop myself from having these thoughts?
It’s becoming a bit of an obsession and I worry I’m actually in love with him.
I’m finding it all very unsettling.
DEIDRE SAYS: Many men and women develop fantasies and for the most part they are harmless.
The main pitfall comes when people act on their fantasies in real life.
There is a huge difference between thinking about something and doing something about it.
Best to put your energies into your own relationship. That way I’m sure this fantasy will fade in time.
Read my support pack on Fantasies to reassure yourself.
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