A mother-in-law has ‘ruined’ her son’s engagement party with a shocking admission.
The 23-year-old bride-to-be and her fiancé hosted their celebrations with family and were just about to continue what had been a ‘great’ evening with friends at a bar when the groom’s mother started crying.
Accusing her son of ‘leaving her’ and that she ‘wasn’t his number one anymore’, the night quickly went downhill.
‘I stood there awkwardly not knowing what to do,’ the bride’s Reddit post read, adding that her partner decided not to join their friends after all and went ‘straight home’.
‘When we got home I found out that my future MIL said to my siblings that were too young to be getting married,’ the post continued.
‘When confronted the next day she said it was a joke and my family took it the wrong way. We tried to move on and went to view a venue.
‘We fell in love with the venue and set a date. We want a small intimate wedding with close friends and family.
‘When my partner’s mother found out about this she gave my partner the silent treatment for a few days.
‘My partner was told that she’s very annoyed that we went a booked a venue for 60 people because she can’t enjoy her day with her family…instead making him feel guilty about his own wedding day.
‘I don’t want to get involved with his family dynamics but I’m a bit hurt she went behind our backs and said that to my family. My family completely disagree and think we should do what’s best for us.’
The comments were inundated with sympathetic readers, one of whom suggested she discuss setting boundaries between her fiancé and his mother.
‘Your fiancé needs to set boundaries now, or this is your future whenever the two of you try to plan anything’, they advised. ‘If he doesn’t want to set boundaries, then YOU need to.’
‘Pay close attention to how your fiancé handles this situation’, another suggested. ‘If he lets her stomp all over decisions that should only be between the two of you and doesn’t put her in her place, then you are getting a preview of what you’re in for during the entire marriage. Imagine how intrusive she will be if you have children.’
A third joked: ‘She’s acting like a child because she’s one of those crazies that wants to marry her own son.’
Elsewhere, one user issued a stark warning that this wasn’t just a red flag in her future mother-in-law, but potentially in her future husband, too.
‘You have not just a MIL problem but a future husband problem. FMIL is being VERY manipulative and your fiancé is allowing her to do so. He is enabling her bad behaviour.’
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