DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter ripped me to bits when we had an arranged meeting in a local park.
I was hoping to reconcile after falling out with her earlier in the year, so when she suggested a rendezvous, I leapt at the chance to clear the air.
Sadly, it quickly became clear that she feels nothing but bitterness towards me.
I am her 59-year-old mum and my daughter is 31.
She had her first baby a year ago and I know she is struggling.
I tried to help as much as I could and even stayed for a couple of weeks when her son was born as her husband was working away.
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But I feel that everything I do is taken for granted.
When I told her I would help as necessary but didn’t want to be a free babysitting service, she was livid.
My husband and I helped them to paint their new house, collect a new cot and freezer, and have also given them money to buy a bigger house.
But my daughter has now blocked me on all social media so I can’t see any photos of her or my grandchild.
I am devastated as I don’t think that things will ever be the same again.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This is a heartbreaking situation. You have done a great job by being a loving, supportive and constant presence in your daughter and grandson’s life.
It does seem as if your daughter doesn’t appreciate you, which understandably leaves you feeling resentful.
Write to her and say you don’t want there to be a rift between you.
Explain that you love her and your grandson very much and would love to be a part of their lives.
Offer to give help in emergencies but anything outside of that has to be pre-planned.
You can turn to Stand Alone (standalone.org.uk), which supports people estranged from their family.
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