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DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend has arranged romps for me with her best friend because she worries I am sexually unsatisfied in our relationship.

I’m 37, she’s 34 and we have been together for five years.

When I was single I had a great sex life and played the field. Then I met her at work and knew my days of chasing women were over, as the chemistry between us was incredible.

I fell in love with her and she felt the same.

Our sex life has been electric from the start but the attraction is almost too strong.

She sends my body into overdrive and I rarely last more than a few seconds once we have intercourse.

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It’s so embarrassing and I hoped I would gain more control in time, but there is something about her.

I love her so much, although I can’t help missing the great sex I used to enjoy.

Last time we spoke about it, she surprised me by saying she felt she was doing something wrong. She went on to suggest I might last longer and get more satisfaction with someone else.

She reassured me that it would be fine and even arranged for me to sleep with her best friend, who’s 33.

I think my girlfriend felt it would be safer with her than with anyone else. It worked to a point. I lasted longer but feel sure that’s because this was just sex. I don’t love her friend.

Now my girlfriend thinks I should do it with her mate regularly so that I’m not missing out.

I think she feels like a failure.

I can’t convince her the problem lies with me.

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DEIDRE SAYS:  You are both giving each other such mixed messages and slipping into even murkier waters.

Both of you need to slow down and talk things through.

You are likely to be experiencing premature ejaculation because you care about your girlfriend so much and are putting undue pressure on yourself.

By suggesting you get your sexual kicks elsewhere, your partner is missing out on the opportunity to sort this out between you.

Inviting a third person into your relationship is a huge risk and certainly not the answer here.

There are lots of techniques you can learn to help you last longer with your girlfriend, which are described in my support pack Want To Last Longer?

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