My husband wants an open marriage now he owns a successful business despite me supporting him for 14 YEARS – should I divorce him?

• The mom-of-two, 40, has revealed her husband asked for an open marriage 
• She said that her spouse, 41, began acting differently after his company took off
• The unnamed woman questioned if she was in the wrong for wanting a divorce

A mother-of-two has questioned if she should leave her husband who decided he wanted an open marriage after his business became successful. 

The anonymous 40-year-old woman, from the US, took to Reddit to lament about her relationship woes as she shared that her husband, 41, is now looking to ‘explore his sexual options’ because he has garnered financial success. 

She noted that she and her beau had been married for over a decade, however, their relationship hit murky waters when her spouse’s company took off. 

In a thread titled ‘Am I the a**hole,’ she asked people on the web if she was in the wrong for wanting to divorce her husband after he said he wanted to sleep with other women while remaining married. 

A mother-of-two has questioned if she should leave her husband who decided he wanted an open marriage after his business became successful 

In the post, she explained that she and her husband met and tied the knot when he had little money, making her the breadwinner. 

She explained: ‘My husband of eight years spent his twenties and early thirties building his business. Part of the reason why he turned to being an entrepreneur was because he had a tough time holding down jobs, to the point having a business was the only way he could earn money.

‘Either a supervisor was too dumb or controlling. Or because my husband didn’t have the degree or experience required for the jobs he could tolerate. Or the hours at the jobs he had were horrible.

‘I understand his struggles with all those reasons, and when we started dating 14 years ago, I was the primary breadwinner simply by nature of the fact that I had a steady source of employment.’ 

And when the couple began dating all that time ago, the unnamed man doted on his now-wife and praised her for loving him despite his financial struggles. 

‘My husband told me that I was only the second serious girlfriend he ever had. He did have a few hookups here and there before we met, but mostly with women much older than him that never went beyond one-night stands. 

‘When we started dating he was the one always actively trying to pursue me and telling me how lucky he was to have me. Saying I was worth the world because unlike other New Yorkers, I noticed the ‘invisible people.’

‘Flash forward nearly a decade and a half and now we are married with two daughters (eight and five). Things started working out for us around age 35 and I’ve never been anything but supportive. 

In a thread titled ‘ Am I the a**hole ,’ she asked people on the web if she was in the wrong for wanting to divorce her husband after he said he wanted to sleep with other women while remaining married (stock image)

‘I quit my job to take care of our kids after he moved us to a nice Connecticut suburb,’ she said. 

However, now that her spouse’s business is booming, he has begun treating her as if she is a ‘source of annoyance.’ 

She explained: ‘He’s a part of a bunch of professional organizations and his own company loves a good party, but I am increasingly not his date to any of them. 

‘When I am alone with him he at least talks to me but if a beautiful girl joins the group it’s game over for me, and I’m excluded from his social interactions from that point forward.

‘He talks to people within earshot about how beautiful this or that woman is. He tells me he’s allowed to find other girls pretty.     

‘The final straw was during a company family thing where my daughters and I arrived and my husband ignored us until somebody said hi to us. 

‘Then he waved his hand at us like he was bashful of our presence and dismissing us.’ 

She noted that she is suspicious her husband has been lying to her about not bringing a date to the events, adding that she suspects he has been cheating. 

The couple attempted to fix their problems with the help of a relationship therapist. 

However, her husband dropped a bombshell on his wife when he revealed he wanted to test the waters by having an open marriage. 

People on the web flooded the comments section as they rushed to her defense

She said: ‘Now we are in therapy and my husband is saying that he wanted two years of a test open marriage. 

‘Where he could explore sexually in a way he was never able to in his 20s. 

‘He says while I had the chance to play around when I was young and attractive, and other guys that weren’t him could, he never could.’  

She added: ‘I told him this is not what we signed up for. And that I didn’t think it was the charitable thing for a wife to do. 

‘He accused me of liking the lifestyle he provides and said to go carve out my own life instead of complaining. I told him if he has sex it has to be with me or I’m leaving.’ 

At the end of the post, she questioned if she was an ‘a**hole’ for wanting to divorce him instead of having an open marriage. 

People on the web flooded the comments section as they rushed to her defense and suggested she leave him. 

One person said: ‘Yep, divorce this clown and take the alimony as just payment for him jerking you around and having you pay all the bills until he thought he could do better.’ 

Someone else wrote: ‘He sounds like a man going through a midlife crisis.’ 

Many people advised the woman to consult a lawyer and divorce her husband

One person added: ‘Please choose yourself. He’s probably already testing the open marriage route he just hasn’t told you.’ 

Another user added: ‘Classic narcissist.’ 

‘Divorce court is not going to be kind to this man. Then again, he does not seem that smart and probably deserves what he is going to get,’ someone else wrote. 

‘Not the a**hole. Get a lawyer and quit going to therapy with him. He’s going to cheat if he hasn’t already, because he’s already decided that he is entitled to,’ someone else commented. 

Another person wrote: ‘Consult a lawyer ASAP. You supported him for 14 years and now he thinks that since he has money, he can go buy women that will have him? He would be nobody without all of the support (emotional and financial) you gave him. 

‘You need to talk to a lawyer. You own 50 per cent of his business because you are married and you financially supported him. Did you put money into the business?

‘Don’t let him treat you like a doormat and think very carefully about what example you are setting for your daughters.’

One user said: ‘Not the a**hole but I reckon he’s probably cheated/cheating already. Get your ducks in order and get out. I honestly don’t think there’s any coming back from someone asking to open the relationship.’ 

‘Quietly get a lawyer and live your life with your daughters,’ one person said. 

‘Not the a**hole. Remember to take your half for years of supporting him,’ someone else commented. 

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