DEAR DEIDRE: EVEN though I’m 34 my mum is forcing me to move back in with her.
She is emotionally blackmailing me, crying on the phone about how lonely she is. She is 65, and I’m her only child.
My dad died two years ago from bowel cancer, and she has lived on her own since. But she has found it tough, living alone in a three-storey house.
She can barely use the stairs since her knee replacement and spends most days on her own.
So last month she begged me to move back in with her. Part of me thinks I should, but I want my own life.
I’ve suggested she sells the house and moves into an assisted living apartment.
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There are some gorgeous new ones ten minutes from my flat. But she doesn’t want to sell our family home, as that’s where all her memories of my dad are.
I don’t know what to do.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have every right to lead your own life, so it’s unfair for your mum to expect you to drop everything for her.
It sounds as though she is still struggling with the passing of your dad and feels very lonely.
My support pack, Coping With Bereavement shows where she can find help.
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If your mum insists on staying in the family home, suggest she gets a carer to come in and help once or twice a day.
I’m also attaching my support pack Feeling Lonely? which shows ways she can meet new people.
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