DEAR DEIDRE: I KNOW it sounds awful, but after 14 years of marriage, I’m so bored of sex with my wife that now I actively avoid it and make up an excuse instead.
I know she’s noticed it too – there’s only so many times you can claim to be “too tired”.
She’s 38 and I’m 39.
I’ve tried suggesting new positions, toys and sex games, but my wife is never keen.
Her response is always: “Why do you need me to act like a porn star? What’s wrong with us just making love?”
So now I’ve resorted to watching porn and pleasuring myself.
Most nights, once my wife is in bed, I’ll spend an hour watching videos.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s fine to watch porn, as long as it’s not affecting your relationship.
But it sounds as though, rather than dealing with the problems in your relationship, you’re using porn to escape them.
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You need to tell your wife how you feel. She might also have things she feels you both need to work on.
It might help to discuss these with a counsellor – try tavistockrelationships.org (020 7380 1960).
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