The three reasons women are cheating and paying for sex more than ever, SAMANTHA X reveals… and the one bedroom act they’re definitely not interested in
It’s the million-dollar question – what do women want? Flowers, romance, and a diamond ring? Maybe 20 years ago, but today’s women are booking male escorts for one thing: sex.
And lots of it.
With dating harder than ever, work schedules busier and time our biggest commodity, women say they’re sick of their time being wasted by men who they claim, have lost the art of being gentlemen.
I spent a decade as Australia’s most famous escort. I also owned a busy escort agency for women over 40 and ran an advertising platform for male escorts too. Not only did I have hundreds of men confide in me their deepest darkest secrets, but women too.
They told me why they booked male escorts and what their secret needs were. I know why one 46-year-old divorcee spent $60,000 in five years on male companions and I can assure you, it wasn’t for the conversation.
Amanda Goff, aka Samantha X, was an escort in her late 30s (above)
While it takes two to tango, and women can be just as tricky in the dating game as men, ghosting, drama and less emotional attachment were reasons women preferred to book online.
I wrote recently that men saw female escorts for connection. Women don’t need connection like men do; we get our emotional needs met by our friends, family, even our pets.
Women don’t want hours of endless talking. We do enough of that in our real lives.
Women want the F word: fun.
These are the top three reasons why women pay for sex. Guys, please don’t shoot the messenger.
1. They want their confidence back
Having kids changes women’s bodies. Gone are our flat tummies and pert breasts. Just as much as it is joyous, motherhood can be a hit on our self-esteem, and women can be left feeling unsexy and undesirable.
One mum said her secret sexy liaisons with a young male escort made her feel alive again and restored her self-esteem. A CEO in her 40s claimed some men would refuse to be seen with her in public because she was overweight, but her male companion would ‘proudly show me off on his arm’.
2. They want good sex
‘I was sick of men coming over to eat meals I’d cook for them, and the food was always more satisfying than the sex,’ said a divorcee. Women confess they want to be with a man who ‘puts her pleasure first,’ not a quick wham bam before disappearing.
Random men were in for sex ‘for their own gratification,’ a former sex worker said, while she wanted to ‘get down to business’ with someone visually attractive without the headache, stress and time constraints of a relationship. Fear of being ridiculed and not being good enough were also up there, with women wanting to act out their sexual fantasies without being judged and with clear cut boundaries.
Goff said women definitely don’t want hours of endless talking in the bedroom. They don’t needS connection, they need good sex
3. They want to be respected
The consensus from women was that social media had a lot to answer for. ‘Some men think it’s OK to introduce themselves by sending dick pics and being crude, thinking it will get them somewhere,’ said a former female police officer. ‘I’ve had men also want sex the first time we meet and assume “all women are easy”.’
A senior executive told me the men she had dated ‘whinged too much about their ex-wives’, and were intimidated by her independence. There were complaints some men are confused by today’s expectations, scared of approaching them, and don’t even buy their dates a drink on a first date. It was the ease of booking an allocated time, knowing what to expect, ‘getting down to it’ without the games and importantly, walking away knowing you still have your power.
Not all women, and certainly not all men. But the male escort industry is booming. I personally know of men who make hundreds of thousands of dollars in this game, who are paid to go on five-star holidays, gifted apartments and motorbikes, arm candy at corporate events, and even the third party in a marriage.
Of course, being the sexpert I am, I booked a male escort myself – for research purposes of course. How did it go? I’ll tell you next time.
‘Samantha X’ or Amanda Goff, is a former escort, author and columnist
The male escort industry is booming with men making hundreds of thousands of dollars in this game, says Goff
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