DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I discovered a bag of women’s clothes hidden in my son’s wardrobe, I was quite shocked but wanted to support him.
Although I didn’t have an issue with him cross-dressing, I was worried he’d be angry I knew.
I’m 48 and my son is 25 and still lives at home with me, his dad, 50, and our daughter, 20.
He has always been quiet and a bit of a loner. You told me that at 25 he was entitled to privacy.
If he’d hidden the clothes it was best not to mention my discovery.
But you suggested I talk more casually with him about whether he was happy, and make it clear I was there for him if he needed to talk.
You also recommended Family Lives (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222) for parenting support and The Beaumont Society, (beaumontsociety.org.uk, 01582 412 220) about cross-dressing.
Your advice really eased my mind.
I talked things over with those charities and decided to wait for my son to raise the issue, if he needed to.
Thanks for being there when there was nobody else I could turn to.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s natural to worry about our children. I’m sure your son knows you love him and will confide in you if he needs to.
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