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My recently divorced mother-in-law is sleeping around and showing herself up.
She’s so delighted to be shot of her controlling ex that she’s painting the town red, white and very blue…
Younger men are her lovers of choice and she’s having two a week. She’s not using condoms as she is also past the menopause. But our great fear is that she has no idea if these guys she sleeping with have other lovers.
If we hint that she’s at risk of sexually transmitted infections, she huffs that we’re disgusting.
We are terrified she’s going to be ripped off, let down and humiliated.
JANE SAYS:
You’re right to be concerned.
Rates of STIs have more than doubled among middle-aged adults and the elderly in the past decade.
Your mother-in-law is at risk of contracting anything from syphilis to chlamydia. She should choose her partners wisely and insist on a condom.
She must get over the fact that talking about protection is in any way rude. Go on the NHS Choices website and present her with the relevant facts.
She’s entitled to an exciting life, but actions have consequences.
Sick of his daft dreams
MY boyfriend spends so much time fantasising and planning that he forgets to live in the moment.
He enjoyed a very small win on a lottery. Now he’s obsessed with winning big.
He can’t stop talking about the houses, cars and boats he’ll buy. This is doing my head in.
Meanwhile, I’m getting on with cleaning the house, sorting out the bills and earning a living.
His heart isn’t in his job because his head is in the clouds.
He gets annoyed when I tell him to snap out of it. He complains I have no ambition and no imagination but it’s boring listening to his daydreams when real life is so tough.
JANE SAYS: Maybe if your man spent less time in his head and more time doing something about his dreary life he’d feel more fulfilled.
Tell him something must change. If work is boring, then what is he going to do about it? How is going to make his dreams come true?
Warn him that your patience is wearing thin. You’ll help him as much as you can, but you have limits.
At what point is he going to attempt to make his own luck?
- Family
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