I am in an open relationship and pregnant – people constantly judge but I don't care, I like to see the bad comments | The Sun

FIFTEEN years ago, Jessica DeMarco made a decision, to be honest with her partner and got exactly what she wanted – an open relationship.

Now, the 33-year-old and her husband Stephen couldn't be more excited to welcome a child into their unconventional household – but others think it's a bad idea.

"People think our relationship isn't going to work because we're having a baby now," Jess told The U.S. Sun in an exclusive interview.

“We definitely get a lot of messages like, ‘are you guys going to stop this crazy behavior, now that you’ve got a kid on the way?’”

After five years of trying, a few miscarriages, and one ectopic pregnancy, Jess and Stephen are finally having a baby, yet their controversial life choice has resulted in haters spreading doubt.

But Jess and Stephen's connection has never been stronger, and the two remain confident in their decision to raise a child with more than just two parents.

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What the two truly want is to raise their baby boy as one family unit: one father and two loving mothers.

"Now that we’re pregnant we do like to show the more real ‘it takes a village' point of view,” Jess explained.

This has caused more women to give them their blessing and express a change of heart as they can now see how being in a thruple could actually be good for raising a child.

"I think that we're starting to teach people and men and women alike that it’s not a sex thing," Jess said.

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On whether or not they thought their polygamous relationship would negatively affect their child, Jess and Stephen conveyed faith that their platform wouldn't let that happen.

"If we can take the heat off of all the future people being polyamorous, and let all the other people get all their disses out on us, we’re more than fine with that,” Stephen proclaimed.

"There’s always things that you’re going to have to worry about with how your kids are going to be judged, but hopefully we’re thinking that we’re paving the way for people to start having an open view.”

And for all the mothers that don't want their children hanging out with the young DeMarco, Jess and Stephen couldn't care less.

The story behind TikTok's contentious pair from CliqueBaitTV begins in the suburbs of Maryland.

"We started off as a regular couple,” Jess said.

Jess was 21 years old cycling through waitressing gigs when she first met her life partner Stephen DeMarco.

He had a boat-detailing business and lived in a loving household while she was managing in a strict environment.

Once they were introduced through friends, it didn't take long for the pair to realize their connection was too strong to move too slowly.

With four hours between them but a desire to share everything from their family history to a phone plan, Jess and Stephen made their relationship official on October 10th, 2009.

"When we started dating, we literally moved in together head first. We worked together and lived together," Jess admitted.

“We realized that we liked each other, and this couple-hour drive wasn’t going to work.” 

Though this was Stephen's first long-term relationship, the two were attached at the hip, all in with just each other.

But not for long.

Jess had known she was bisexual for a while before she met Stephen.

Two years into their relationship, she started having recurring dreams about being with women.

For the first time since being with Stephen, Jess felt a need to fulfill both sides of her attraction.

"I went to him, and I thought about other people’s perspectives. I said, 'Okay dude, I miss women,'” Jess said.

Her intentions weren't to end the amazing connection she had with him; she was looking to reinvent the relationship, and one episode of Sister Wives sparked an idea.

"Instead of dating separately and potentially going on two different paths to eventually break up in the future," Jess explained.

"We just figured we’re a great catch as a couple, let’s find a girl that can vibe with us both."

Jess's decision in opening up to Stephen about her feelings was easy for her knowing the kind of man he was.

"When I realized Stephen wasn’t trying to cheat on me or get away from me, I realized he was in it for marriage and long-term. I realized I could trust him with so much more,” she openly admitted.  

Six girlfriends and plenty of dates later, Jess and Stephen have rebuilt their relationship to include other women.

The pair solely looks for bisexual women interested in seeing both of them.

"Since we want to be a closed triad or a thruple. It’s two girls that are bisexual and a straight guy, and he just kind of gets the best of both worlds," Jessica said.

"We make sure that if it’s not a fit for the family and the house, then it’s not a good fit for everybody.”

They are estimated to have gone on over a hundred dates.

"We haven’t slept with 100 girls," Stephen clarified.

"Society rules of monogamous relationships aren’t fit for everyone. It's still very taboo."

Any woman who comes to stay will always sleep in their king-size bed with them.

There are no bed assignments, whatever their special guest is comfortable with goes.

If Jess was the only woman that got to sleep with Stephen, she would likely be seen as the "Queen bee," which is not what she wants.

And why the two haven't officially gotten married.

"We never got married legally since we are non-monogamous. Our biggest rule is what’s fair for one is fair for all," Jess said.

Though they never signed legal paperwork, on their 10th anniversary Jess and Stephen went to Jamaica and had a ceremony celebrating their love.

But the pair's relationship dynamic has been one long game of trial and error.

There never were any set rules or guidelines for how this new era was going to work, and it's no secret there have been some bumps in the road.

Stephen's admitted his eagerness to make romantic gestures with new girlfriends has gotten him in trouble in the past.

When he wanted to surprise a woman he and Jess were seeing with a bouquet, Jess's gotten upset that he didn't do that for her.

But Stephen admitted he wouldn't be the respectful and caring man he is if it wasn't for her.

"Oh, we have a lot of issues. We’ve been together for a while and have dated a lot of girls,” Stephen proclaimed.

The young pair would argue that their ability to overcome these obstacles stems from their communication competence.

"We know that there’s this respect in the relationship. There are two sides to every story," Jess admitted.

And it's not just mutual, two-sided respect, Jess and Stephen show the same level of consideration for every woman they're with.

"We always think about from his point of view, my point of view, and her point of view how the situation will work,” Jess expressed.

Those that would say their relationship is unconventional, don't know these two.

Jess and Stephen pride themselves on being classy and wholesome when it comes to the actual dates they go on for that matter.

Between pumpkin picking and good food, both of them prefer to take their woman out for "family-friendly" activities.

Though the two have never had a live-in girlfriend, that's their end goal.

This doesn't mean they're not open to having more than just a couple of women at once.

At most, Jess and Stephen have been in a relationship with three other women at once.

"There’s no limit if we all love each other,” Jess honestly said.

For them, it's about finding the right match, which has proven to be hard to come by.

Stephen's "roughness" and Jess's "softness" creates a certain difficulty because their girlfriend has to mesh with both of them.

However, timing and immaturity have been the root cause of their previous breakups.

Previous long-term girlfriends have gone off to college, while some short-term ones have wanted to use them for experimentation purposes, as well as revenge on their monogamous partners.

Overall, their longest relationship with another woman has been about six months.

Between their own experience and what they've gathered from the many women they've dated, the biggest obstacle in trying to make a thruple work is the opinions of others.

Jess knew her parents would never be accepting or understanding of her wanting to be in a polygamous relationship.

In her opinion, they never were the best, to begin with.

She said: "My family wasn’t very loving of me at all. They were anything you could be hateful toward, race, religion, gender, sex, sexuality, you name it and my family hated it.”  

So, instead of sticking around to wait for their approval, she went all in with Stephen's parents who were kind and supportive.

"My family definitely sees us online these days and they probably have got something to say," Jess explained.

"We don’t really worry about my family, I don’t really have much contact. But Stephen’s family is great."

Now more than ever, having Stephen's mom encouraging the pair to follow their heart is exactly what they need.

Jess is due in early January, and as thrilled as the couple is, they can't say the same for their viewers.

Opening up to their followers about their pregnancy hasn't been what they thought it would be.

Because their TikTok account has been banned several times and hundreds of hate messages get left on each video, Jessica and Stephen knew people would be critical.

You could say they're pretty used to the hate by now.

"We love to see the bad comments. Bad comments don't hurt," Stephen admitted.

Typically, the two will receive messages accusing them of being serial daters who can be seen with a new random woman every week.

But this couldn't be further from the truth.

Most of the women they've dated they've known for at least a couple of years, and they were hoping to be in a full-time triad before their baby was born.

Even though it may seem hard to deal with constant disapproval from close friends and internet bots, Jess and Stephen try to not take it too personally.

By focusing on their own happiness, the two have constructed the kind of relationship that feels right for them.

While they might have been apprehensive about being honest before, now they can't imagine not sharing this part of their lives.

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"Back in the day, I’d be like what am I going to do tell you I have two girlfriends? So, I just didn’t tell anybody anything like I didn’t even tell my best friends," Stephen admitted.

"Now, we tell people and they’re so shocked, but it’s so normal to us. I don’t know, it’s just different.” 

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