If you have spent any time on dating apps, you have heard of ‘ghosting’ – or perhaps have even experienced dates simply cutting off all communication with no explanation. But there is now a new dating trend that is leaving singletons feeling insecure and confused – and it’s even worse than ghosting.
The new problem in the dating is called “fizzling”, which is when a date begins putting in less and less effort in hopes that communication will just “fizzle out” instead of officially ending the relationship.
In a new report, the dating app Hinge has put out an LGBT dating report which has analysed popular relationship trends in 2023.
According to the report, 90 percent of singles have said they wish to avoid being fizzled.
The report said: “Hinge’s LGBTQIA+ DATE report reveals this behaviour can be just as painful as ghosting.”
It continued: “If a dater isn’t feeling the connection, a text message letting them know is the modern-day requirement.”
Therapist Rhian Kivits has explained why fizzing can be such a painful experience.
In an interview with The Mirror, the sex and relationship expert said: “The human mind has a negative bias which means we often assume the worst in situations where we have no clear answers.
“With dating fizzling you may be left telling yourself that it must have happened because you weren’t attractive enough, sexy enough or entertaining enough for the other person.”
She added that fizzing can have a very negative effect on a person’s self-esteem as it can make someone feel they were the problem in the relationship.
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The therapist said that fizzing can make those trying to date feel “worthless” as the other person begins putting less effort into the relationship.
Rhian said: “”Fizzling can trigger insecure attachment behaviours, like grasping for attention or putting up with breadcrumbs.”
The relationship expert also offered an explanation as to why people implement the fizzing technique instead of simply breaking up with someone.
She said: “The person doing the fizzling is most likely avoidant and selfish because they’re not responsible or secure enough to admit that they’re no longer interested in the connection and they lack care for the way their behaviour makes others feel.”
A love and connection expert from Hinge has also explained how fizzing can make recipients feel,
Expert Moe Ari Brown, told the Mirror: “Slowly phasing someone out without offering an explanation can trigger feelings of unworthiness, confusion and self-doubt.
They advised: “If you’re not feeling the connection, remember there’s another human being on the other side of that screen – and they deserve closure.”
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