A woman says she may charge her husband for "lost earnings" as his new job means she has to cut her work hours.
However, she says some people tell her their relationship is "dysfunctional".
The wife took to parenting forum Mumsnet to explain the situation.
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She said her husband has found a new contracting role in London – and it means he will have to stay with his mother during the week.
The woman currently makes good money from a job with unsociable hours, but will have to quit if her husband takes the new position because she needs to look after their daughter.
"I don't believe it's beneficial in anyway to my life," she said.
"I would rather he took the job with less pay so I am able to work as I need too.
"I feel I have financial independence at the moment and the working away would make me feel vulnerable."
People were torn over the situation, with some agreeing that it's not good to be 'economically vulnerable' and questioned her husband not being there to help with childcare. Others also argued that their relationship is not really a partnership.
Talking about the situation, the woman wrote: "My husband is a contractor and will soon need to look for another role. He's been working from home for four years."
She said she's spotted another home-working role for him, but it's not as much pay as the role he wants to take in Canary Wharf 'which will mean he will live at his mum's and commute in'.
"We have never really shared finances wholly," she added.
"I work in a job with unsociable hours. I make good money but I have to leave at 8-9pm. I work compressed hours.
"If he takes the Canary Wharf job, my earning power will be severely impacted as I need to care for my daughter. I have no outside help.
"I've told my husband that he will either have to top up my wages to how much I've lost, or pay for a nanny. I also have a health condition, and compressed hours make it easier to manage."
She added: "He is saying I'm being unreasonable, and that it's good he's earning more money, but I don't believe it's beneficial in any way to my life. I would rather he took the job with less pay so I am able to work as I need too.
"I feel I have financial independence at the moment and the working away would make me feel vulnerable. Am I being unreasonable?"
Some felt it was bizarre that the pair would be living away from each other.
One Mumsnetter wrote: "To be honest, it seems a bit bizarre if you’re married and your husband lives with his mum while you and your child live elsewhere on your own."
Another agreed, as they added: "I wouldn't be OK with this either. He doesn't get to opt out of family life Mon to Fri. He needs to pick the job that suits his family."
And a third chimed in: "Definitely wouldn’t be happy with him spending the week in London and leaving all the childcare to you."
Meanwhile, others suggested that the relationship, and the way the couple splits their finances, sounds 'dysfunctional'.
One said: "You're both BU [being unreasonable] and you sound like you're barely a partnership.
While another: "I have rarely seen an example of such disfunction."
Others were fully on the wife's side – as one said: "If he wants to change the status quo, why should you take the hit for it?"
Another Mumsnetter wrote: "Husband should foot the bill. You are right to protect yourself."
Who's side are you on? Let us know in the comments…
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