DEAR DEIDRE: I STOOD up to my girlfriend’s abusive family, and now they’ve banned her from seeing me.
She’s 25 and I’m 29. We’ve been dating for the last three years.
I’m her first serious boyfriend and saw the grim reality of what her family was really like. They’re awful.
Her mother constantly criticises her appearance, so of course my girlfriend has a difficult relationship with food.
And her dad is always gaslighting her, telling her she’s “overreacting or “remembered that wrong”.
She’s also told me that one Christmas, after a few too many drinks, her stepbrother got a bit handsy.
Sadly, her family did nothing about it.
I finally stood up to them last month and told them they were abusive.
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Now they’ve banned her from seeing me.
What should I do? I love her and want to protect her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You obviously had good intentions, but clearly they didn’t appreciate criticism from an outsider.
Her parents are likely in denial about how their behaviour is affecting their daughter.
Even though you feel they’re in the wrong, an apology may help get things back on track with your girlfriend.
Make sure you let her know you are there for her. If you can’t do this over the phone, consider writing her a letter.
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