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DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE found the perfect woman for me. The only problem is she’s my best mate’s girlfriend.

Every time I see her, I get instantly aroused.

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It’s become such a big problem that I engineered an argument with my friend so I could keep my distance and avoid seeing them together.

I’m 23, and my best mate is the same age. His girlfriend is 21.

The moment I clapped eyes on her, I knew I wanted her. She’s beautiful, sexy and sweet, too.

I look at a photo of her that he sent me all the time, and every night I masturbate, thinking of her.

The idea that I’ll never have her kills me. But I don’t want to lose my best mate either.

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Distancing myself hasn’t helped, and I can’t avoid him for ever.

What should I do?

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DEIDRE SAYS:  We can’t choose who we are attracted to – it’s all down to chemistry. But you can choose what you do about it.

Either accept you are attracted to her but can’t have her and move on, or risk losing your best friend for a chance of being with her.

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