DEAR DEIDRE: MY boss left me in shock by touching me inappropriately – but it wasn’t the first time he has done this to me.
I am a 26-year-old female and work in a busy call centre.
My boss is in his early fifties. On this latest occasion, I was standing in a doorway when he put his arms around my waist to move me to the side. It scared me.
I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to say. I just froze.
I have a history of childhood abuse, so anything like this is difficult to deal with.
I didn’t do anything about it for a few days and decided to give him benefit of the doubt, but when I saw him I told him he’d really scared me.
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He just smiled and denied all knowledge.
I told him to say “excuse me” the next time he wants to get past.
He claims he didn’t know what I was talking about, but did apologise.
He did something similar a few weeks ago.
Now it seems as if he is avoiding me, which speaks volumes.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This is sexual harassment.
He’s taking advantage of his more senior position to intimidate you.
If he does it again, tell him coldly and loudly: “I’ve already said I don’t want you to touch me. Don’t do it again.”
You can also make a formal complaint.
Acas can give you the expert advice that you need (acas.org.uk, 0300 123 1100).
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